DASH to Solutions
Name 2 strategies on our DASH to Solutions problem solving wheel.
Ignore, play something else, share and take turns, tell them to stop, walk way, tell how you feel, wait and cool off, or apologize.
Name 2 coping tools you can use to help yourself deal with big or uncomfortable feelings.
Deep breaths, go for a walk, helpful self-talk, listen to music, read, think of a happy memory, talk to a positive person.
Name 3 actions that show inclusion
Inviting, playing, sharing, having fun, making space, smiling, etc.
What is a consequence?
What happens after a choice.
Name two things that are INSIDE of your control at school.
Your own words, effort, choices, asking for help, following directions, taking care of your feelings, etc.
Give an example of a medium size problem that might happen at school.
Medium problems make us stop and think. We might need to cool down first and then choose a solution or ask for help.
Example: A partner during group work is making all of the decisions and won't let you help.
Name at least 3 of the 4 categories of coping tools that we learned about. (Hint: think about the Coping Shields that we made during this lesson).
Calm body, calm thoughts, distraction, and positive people.
When we read The Invisible Boy, what was one action that made Brian feel invisible and one way he later felt included?
Invisible: Not including in birthday party conversation, ignored during team picks, ignored by his teacher
Included: Invited to join the group project, invited to join at lunch, compliment, inviting him to play at recess.
Name one helpful choice a student can make during class.
Which is more helpful self-talk:
"I'll never get this" OR "I can keep practicing"?
"I can keep practicing" because it encourages you to keep trying and not give up. It also gives you hope that you could get better at something.
A friend keeps leaving you out during recess and it is hurting your feelings. Name two possible solutions to solve this problem.
Tell how you feel, play something else, or wait and cool off.
You had a frustrating morning and keep thinking about it during class.
Name a distraction coping tool that you could try.
Listen to music, read, or think of a happy memory.
Your teacher tells everyone to find a partner. You already have one, but notice someone is alone.
What could you DO or SAY to help them feel included?
Point to someone else who doesn't have a partner, invite them to join you if it's ok to have an extra person, or say something encouraging.
In the Kid President video, Kid President ate too many Oreos.
Name two possible consequences that could happen.
Stomachache
Parent might be upset
Cavity
Your friend is upset with you and you cannot control their feelings.
What is one thing you have control of in this situation?
My words, apologizing, staying calm, listening, asking them to talk.
Your group is working on a project, but two people want completely different ideas and start arguing.
ACT IT OUT!
1. Act out the problem
2. Show an unhelpful reaction
3. Use a DASH to Solutions strategy to solve the problem.
You might try taking a deep breath (wait and cool off), tell how you feel, take turns, or apologizing.
You are having trouble figuring out a tough math problem.
Name the feeling AND show us a coping tool you could try.
At lunch you hear someone say,
“You can’t sit with us.”
What could you DO or SAY to help the person feel included?
"You can sit with me/us."
"That's not kind."
Smile and wave them over to where you are sitting.
You forgot your homework and feel nervous. You can:
A. Lie about it
B. Ignore the teacher
C. Tell the truth and make a plan
Which choice is MOST helpful and why?
C. Tell the truth and make a plan
This is most helpful because it is honest, takes responsibility for your action, and helps you come up with a way to solve the problem.
You make a mistake on a hard assignment and start thinking "I am terrible at this."
What are two more helpful self-talk statements you could say instead?
"Mistakes help me learn"
"I can keep trying"
"I can ask for help"
"This is hard right now"
During a game someone accidentally bumps into you and you think they did it on purpose.
ACT IT OUT!
1. Act out the problem
2. Show the first angry thought
3. Use a DASH to Solutions strategy to solve the problem.
You might wait and cool off, tell them to stop, tell how you feel, or walk away.
You made a mistake during a class performance and people laughed.
What are 2 calm thoughts you could say to yourself?
"Mistakes help me learn"
"This feeling is only temporary"
ACT IT OUT!
1. Act out an "excluding situation"
2. Show how someone can make the situation more inclusive.
You might act out ignoring someone when you notice them sitting alone and looking sad. Someone from the group could ask them if they want to join your group or sit next to them and ask if they are ok.
ACT IT OUT!
1. Your team must act out an unhelpful choice (that is school appropriate)
2. Show the consequence
3. Show a better choice for the same situation with a positive consequence
Someone bumps into you and you yell "hey watch out!" This starts an argument between you and the other person.
Someone bumps into you and you say, "Please watch where you're going, you just bumped into me." The other person says, "Oops, sorry." Both people move on.
ACT IT OUT!
1.Show a situation that is frustrating
2.Use unhelpful self-talk
3. Use helpful self-talk and show a choice that is in your control.
You waited a while for your turn in wall ball and then you get called out right away. You think "they tried to make me get out on purpose."
Shift the thought to "Maybe I should try a different game" and walk away to do something different.