Actions/Traits
Speaking up for yourself.
Self advocacy
I am unable to speak for my self or stand up for myself or my rights. I am very quiet.
Passive communication style
When someone corrects you so you can be better at something.
Helpful criticism
What you like and don’t like, or when you feel uncomfortable, boundaries/limits, what triggers you.
Knowing yourself
Laura received her report card and her math grade was lower than she was expecting. She emails teacher to talk about her grade.
Self advocating in school with a teacher
A conclusion reached after consideration.
A decision
Emotionally dishonest, indirect. Self-denying at first. Self-enhancing at expense of others later.
Passive aggressive communication style
Criticism that is meant to make you feel bad.
Hurtful criticism
Love, listened to/heard, respected, honesty, trust, privacy, belonging.
Knowing your needs
Jenna is working on a group project in biology. The other members of her group are goofing off and not doing the work. She reminds them that they have to focus and privately lets the teacher know that she is having difficulties in the group.
Advocating in groups/adults/teachers
Taking action to reach your goals.
Self-determination
Appropriately honest, direct, self-enhancing, expressive, self-confident, empathic to emotions of all involved.
Assertive communication style
Suggestions for improvement- how things can be done or more acceptably.
Constructive criticism
Communicating, standing up for yourself, "a close mouth doesn't get fed"- asking for help.
Getting your needs meet
A family member has started calling you a nickname that you do not like. You have asked them to stop, but they don't. You let your parents know and remind the family member that you would appreciate it if they would stop.
Self-advocating with family
Emotional or mental qualities necessary in dealing with situations or events that are distressing or difficult.
Strength
Being loud, bossy, and pushy. Wanting to get my own way no matter what.
Aggressive communication style
Draws attention to a good or positive aspect of something that is being ignored, disregarded or overlooked.
Positive criticism
Admit when you’re wrong. Affirm once in a while. Not dismissing my feelings as “Just Being Moody”. Asking My Opinion. Talking with you is hard sometimes. Honesty. Relatable.
Things you wish you could say to your parents
Your friend posted a picture of you on social media that you told them not to post. You ask your friend to talk and ask that they delete the picture.
Advocating with friends
The things that you must do, to keep and use your rights.
Responsibility
Verbal communication, nonverbal communication, written communication, visual communication, listening.
Different ways of communicating
Your counselor advocate gave you feedback on your college essay.
Constructive criticism
Compromising, assertiveness, knowing one's rights, negotiating and speaking up for oneself or cause.
Self-advocacy skills
You let your partner know, that you don't like the way they treat you, when they are with their friends.
Self-advocating within a relationship