Love Yourself
What is self-confidence?
Self-confidence is an attitude about your skills and abilities. It can mean you accept and trust yourself, you know your strengths and weaknesses well, and have a positive view of yourself.
What is a boundary?
List some things that are within our control.
Our feelings, our reactions, how we speak and treat others, the boundaries I set, what I give my attention/energy/time to, etc.
Listen to you, respect your boundaries, do not judge you, do not talk behind your back, etc.
Define sarcasm.
Sarcasm is when we use words, often in a humorous way, to mock someone or something. It means the opposite of what we really mean.
Name one positive affirmation you could tell yourself everyday.
"You are enough", "you have come so far", "everything will be okay in the end", "you are strong", etc.
Name one way boundaries can be helpful?
They can: keep our relationships and ourselves healthy, make ourselves a priority and help others understand our needs.
The past, the future, what others think of me, how others react, other people's boundaries, the attitude of others, what others say, the beliefs of others, etc.
Name some qualities of a bad friend.
Do not respect your boundaries, judgmental, dismiss your feeling/emotions, lie, etc.
Funny or mean? You just left the gym and you are super sweaty and possibly a little smelly. Your best friend say, "wow you are glowing".
This would be funny. It is your best friend and no harmful comment has been made.
Does this person have high or low self-confidence? "I'll never be able to do this on my own".
This person has low self-confidence.
"I can only stay for an hour"
Time boundary
How can we regulate our emotions?
A girl you met at church 3 weeks ago is what level of a friend to you?
Acquaintance or casual friend.
What does this idiom mean? Cut to the chase.
Get to the point.
Does this person have high or low self-confidence. "I can do hard things".
This person has a high self-confidence.
What type of boundary is this setting?
"It makes me uncomfortable when you show up at my front door unannounced"
Personal space boundary
What is catastrophizing and give an example.
Catastrophizing is when someone assumes that the worst will happen. For example, "you tell your friend you are busy and can't talk at the moment, but you assume they will be upset and never speak to you again"
Someone you are able to vent to about your life is what level of friend?
Close or intimate friend.
Make a sentence with the following idiom. Play it by ear.
Answers will vary. Ex. "I am not sure if I will go grocery shopping today, I am just going to play it by ear".
Recognize your strengths, reward and praise yourself for your progress, recognize that past negative life experiences don't dictate your future, tune out negative thoughts and feelings, etc.
Your friend calls you at 11pm really needing to talk to someone. You want to be there for her and listen but you also need to get up early for work. How would you communicate your needs to this friend? What boundary are you setting?
Responses vary
How could we stop catastrophizing?
Practice journaling, focus on solutions to problems, talk to a friend or family member, work on accepting uncertainty/unknown, etc.
List all the levels of friendship.
Stranger, acquaintance, casual friend, close friend and intimate friend.
What are colloquialisms? Give an example.
Colloquialisms are words or phrases that are informal, un-fancy, everyday language. They can be specific to a certain country or geographic region.
Ex. "y'all", "wicked", "pop", "trolly", "lift", "head over heels", etc.