🧠 Good or Bad Self-Talk
Is “I can learn from my mistakes” good or bad self-talk?
Good Self-talk
What is one thing you can prepare before speaking up in a group?
A. An excuse not to talk
B. One idea or question
C. A long speech
D. Nothing
✅ Answer: B
Respectful communication means you can disagree with someone by yelling, swearing, and insulting them
False...(sadly)
Instead of saying “I can’t,” try saying “I can’t ______.”
yet
A good confidence action plan should include one confidence ________.
Answer: goal
Treat yourself like a...
Friend
Before speaking in a group, it can help to prepare one ________ or ________.
Idea or Question
Your friend keeps making jokes about something you are uncomfortable with. You have already laughed it off, but you want them to stop. What could you say?
Clearly and respectfully tell them that the jokes make you uncomfortable and ask them to stop.
Making a mistake means you are bad at something and should stop trying.
False
Which is the BEST example of a daily confidence habit?
A. Complaining about yourself every morning
B. Writing down one thing you like or are proud of about yourself
C. Waiting for someone else to compliment you
D. Comparing yourself to others
Answer: B
Which of the following is an example of negative self-talk?
A. “I can learn from this mistake.”
B. “I’m proud of myself for trying.”
C. “I always mess everything up.”
D. “I can try again.”
Answer: C
Using confident body language can include sitting or standing up straight, making eye contact, and facing the person you are speaking to.
True or False
True
Which statement clearly expresses a need?
A. “You should already know what I want.”
B. “You never care about me.”
C. “I need some time to myself after a long day.”
D. “Forget it. It doesn’t matter.”
Which thought focuses on improvement instead of perfection?
A. “If I’m not perfect, I shouldn’t do it.”
B. “I have to get it right the first time.”
C. “I’m getting better, even if I still have things to learn.”
D. “Everyone else is better than me.”
Answer: C❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Your confidence action plan should include someone you can talk to, encourage you, or turn to when you need support. What is this person?
Answer: A supportive person
You make a mistake on an assignment and think, “I’m so stupid. I can’t do anything right.”
How could you replace this criticism with encouragement?
“I made a mistake, but I can learn from it and do better next time.”
(or anything relating)
When I have something to say but feel nervous, I can build my confidence by __________.
Practicing participation / starting with small opportunities to speak up.
Act out this situation with a partner:Your friend has been making plans without including you. Instead of yelling or blaming them, use respectful communication to explain how you feel and clearly state what you need.
Answer: The participant should communicate their feelings and needs clearly, respectfully, and without yelling or insulting the other person.
Someone says, “I tried it once and failed, so I know I can’t do it.”
What could you say to help them look at their mistake as a learning opportunity?
“Making a mistake doesn’t mean you can’t do it. You can learn from what happened and try a different approach.”
This confidence goal is too vague,how could you make it more specific?
“I want to be more confident.”
Anything that is not vague
A student gets rejected from something they really wanted. Which response shows the BEST use of positive self-talk?
A. “I guess I should just try again next time.”
B. “I’m disappointed, but this rejection doesn’t define me."
C. “It doesn’t matter because I never really wanted it anyway.”
D. Rage quit College
Imagine you are in a group and want to share an idea, but you are nervous. Show us how you would speak up using confident body language and a clear, brief statement.
Answer: This is an interactive challenge, so the participant demonstrates it rather than giving a memorized answer.
Instead of saying, “You’re always ignoring me!”, try saying:
Any reasonable answer that clearly expresses their feelings and needs
Someone says, “If I can’t do something perfectly the first time, there’s no point in trying.” Give them two reasons why this mindset can hold them back and explain what they could focus on instead.
Answer: It can make them afraid to try new things and cause them to give up too quickly. They should focus on progress, practice, and improvement rather than perfection.
You have 48 hours to take one step toward becoming more confident. Create a mini action plan that includes:
You have one minute
Answers will vary, but all four parts should be specific and realistic.