Facts
What do you use when you are feeling or having big emotions and you want them to go away?
Coping skills
Talking about it, asking for help, drawing, exercising, listening to music, accepting, forgiving, letting it go- these are examples of what?
Healthy coping skills
What food groups should we at a lot of, and which food groups should we eat less of?
Lot: fruits, vegetables, dairy/protein
Less: dessert/sugars
What are the positive outcomes of using healthy coping skills?
We feel better, make safe choices, others feel good
Henry's mother told him he needed to complete his chores before playing his XBOX. Henry became upset and began yelling. Is this an example of using his healthy coping skills? What could Henry do instead?
No
He could take a breath and then do his chores so he can have screentime without any problems
Everyone uses A LOT of these when they want to calm themselves down.
Coping skills
What are examples of unhealthy coping skills?
Hurting someone, yelling, throwing or breaking things, hiding from the problem, running away, etc.
1 hour per day
What are possible negative consequences of yelling at someone when you are mad?
They might feel upset, it might make you feel worse, you might get in trouble
Marcia wanted to play on the swings, but they were full. She asked nicely for a turn, set a timer, and found something else to do while she waited without getting upset. Was this good self-control?
Yes!
What are some examples of healthy coping skills?
Writing about how you feel, asking someone you trust for help, drawing, exercising, listening to music etc.
When we are afraid of something should we run from our fear and avoid it or face our fear? Why?
We need to face our fears or worries because if we avoid them, it gets harder the next time and teaches our brain we are in danger. If we face our fears, it shows our brains that we are strong and safe and can get through hard things.
Name 5 activities that count toward our daily physical exercise requirements
1. Biking
2. Walking or running
3. Dancing
4. Jumping rope or trampoline
5. Playing on a playground
and many more !
What are some other consequences for using unhealthy coping skills?
You can get in trouble, you can feel like everything is crashing down on you, which is overwhelming, you can hurt people and lose friendships, etc.
What do you have to do in order to know what will works for you to calm down when you need to?
Learn different coping skills that work for you.
What are some coping skills someone can use to make them feel better when something goes wrong?
Take deep breaths, count to 10, go for a walk, etc,
Why is it important to not have too much screentime?
Too much screentime can be unhealthy, we need to try to get outside and have movement activities as well.
What are the healthy consequences for using healthy coping skills?
You get support and come up with solutions, you can learn to put your emotions into positive things that can improve your mood and help you to feel good about yourself, you can feel at peace and move on, you can improve your friendships
Anna was feeling nervous because she heard rumors that her good friend did not like her anymore. She decided to write about her feelings in her journal. Was this a healthy or unhealthy choice for Anna to use to calm herself down?
Journal writing is a healthy coping skill
Are there unhealthy coping skills and if so, can you unlearn them?
Yes there are unhealthy coping skills such as getting into a fight, hitting someone that upsets you etc,
Yes, you can unlearn unhealthy coping skills and replace them with healthy ones.
What are clues to know when it's time to use my healthy coping skills?
When you start to feel like you are losing control of your behavior or your emotions
Why is going to school important? Name 3 reasons children and teens need to go to school.
Learn new things, make friends and be around people your age, have new opportunities, learn skills to have a job someday
You get up and make your bed and tidy your room in the morning. What are the possible positive consequences of this?
you will feel good for having a nice, clean space. Your parents will feel proud that you tidied up. you will feel good for making them proud.
Brandon was feeling worried and upset at school today and kept his feelings inside and did not tell anyone. Was Brandon using a healthy or unhealthy coping skill? Why?
Unhealthy coping skill. It is important to share our feelings with an adult that can help us.