Fun Facts
Anything you do when you have big emotions and you are trying to make them go away
Coping skills
What do we call our ability to hit the pause button and think before we say or do something?
Self-control
What are examples of unhealthy coping skills?
Hitting someone or something, denial, isolation, all or nothing thinking, blaming
Tony felt embarrassed at school when his classmate made fun of him for messing up his words when it was his time to read. Tony accepted that he was feeling embarrassed, asked his teacher to help him after school, and listened to music to feeling better
What healthy coping skills did Tony use?
Recognized a trigger/ big emotion, asked for help and listened to music
Everyone uses these to try and feel better
Coping skills
Sometimes thinking of a ______ sign can help you stop and think before you make a decision.
Stop sign
What do unhealthy coping skills do?
Make you feel worse and can get you into trouble
Michael felt embarrassed after he snapped at his kids. He and his wife go into a fight because his wife said he does this all the time. What unhealthy coping skills was being used here?
Mike is not taking responsibility for his unhealthy coping
Examples of healthy coping skills.
What is...
deep breathing, body squeezes, asking a trusted person for help, drawing or doodling, exercising, listening to music...
What is it called when we stop ourselves from doing something in the moment?
Impulse control
What should you start to do if you continue using unhealthy coping skills?
Brittney said that if was not the best player on her basketball team she must be the worst. What coping skill was Brittney NOT using?
cognitive flexibility
How can someone learn a coping skill and apply it?
Practice, remind themselves, make a picture to remember
Something we do without thinking.
An impulse
Reasons coping skills can be classified as "unhealthy."
They do not help you calm down, get you in trouble or hurt others or yourself
Aliyah was feeling nervous because she heard rumors that her good friend did not like her anymore. She decided to write about her feelings in her journal.
What type of coping skill is this?
Journaling/ writing, recognizing the emotion
How a person unlearns unhealthy coping skills.
Practicing healthy replacements!
How does impulse control relate to self control?
If you have self-control then you are controlling your impluses.
Why people use unhealthy or maladaptive coping skills.
Because they need to learn and practice self-control and learn healthy coping skills.
Brandon was feeling angry at work today and claimed that everyone was being too picky and grumpy. What type of coping skill should Brandon use?
Taking a break, talking to a trusted adult, deep breathing, filtering thoughts.