Using Your Plan
What is a safety plan?
A personal step-by-step plan to keep yourself and others safe by separating and calming down before things escalate.
True or False: When you call your safety plan you can go anywhere to take it?
False- Only the locations identified with your parents listed on your safety plan.
What is a red flag?
A sign that you are getting upset or may act hurtfully.
What is the purpose of self-calming thoughts?
To help you calm down and stay respectful when you're upset.
When should you use your Safety Plan—before or after you get angry?
Before! before your red flags lead to abuse.
True or False: You can separate from a conflict without telling anyone.
False. You must let someone know using respectful words.
What is question should you be thinking about while on your safety plan?
How can I deal with this problem without being abusive?
What are the four types of red flags?
Negative thoughts, difficult feelings, body signs, actions.
Give an example of a self-calming thought.
“I can walk away,” “I need to stay calm,” “This will pass.”
What happens if you continue being abusive instead of using your Safety Plan?
You may harm others, damage trust, or face consequences.
Name one place that might be okay to go when using your Safety Plan.
bedroom, porch, backyard, walk around the block — if agreed upon with parent
What should you do right after you decide to separate?
Tell the person you're separating using respectful language.
Give 2 examples of body signs.
Tight fists, fast heartbeat, clenched jaw, etc.
How can negative self-talk impact your behavior?
It can make you angrier and more likely to act out.
Name one way your parent can support your Safety Plan.
By not following you when you separate or respecting your break time.
What should you say to let someone know you're using your safety plan?
"I need a break,” “I’m using my Safety Plan,” “I need to calm down."
What should you do while you’re separated?
Do something calming, like breathing, walking, or drawing.
Give 2 examples of actions that are red flags.
Slamming doors, pacing, raising voice, eye-rolling
What is one self-calming strategy you’ve used?
breathing, music, walk, drawing, etc.
What are the three options to resolve a Safety Plan issue?
Let it go, Put it on hold, Discuss it.
Why is a safety plan important?
It prevents you from hurting others, gives you time to calm down, and helps you have better relationships.
What do you do after you’ve calmed down?
Return and try the conversation again using respectful communication.
What should you ask yourself when you notice red flags?
How can I deal with this problem without being abusive?”
True or False: Calming down means giving up on a problem.
False. It means you're choosing a safer way to deal with it.
What should you do if your Safety Plan isn’t working?
Talk to your facilitator or parent to revise it.