Attitudes and Beliefs
_______ are those people, places, events, rules, regulations, expectations, or requests that put some kind of demand on people.
Stressors
*Don't stress out while giving your points to someone wearing red.
______ is the internal reaction to those demands placed upon us.
Stress
*Don't stress it, you can keep the points if you can name all the 7 dwarves. If not the other team gets your points!
The most basic human needs are our _____ needs.
biological
_____: To what degree am I willing to let down my barriers? To what degree am I willing to allow the other person to affect my feelings?
Vulnerability
______: To what degree and on what levels am I willing to let the other person know things about me that I don’t want everybody to know?
Trust
*Trust me, you want to give your points to the person 2 seats to your right.
_____ _____ is associated with the words should, ought, must, always, and never.
Irrational thinking
*This may sound irrational but I think you would make a good Elvis impersonator with your team as your back up singers. Let's hear an Elvis song!
Some of the things that you cannot change will be ____. These include other people and situations about which you do not have control. These might include laws, regulations, expectations, accusations, and broken promises.
external
Once people's basic needs are met they can then focus on living conditions, such as having a safe place to live, sleep, and eat. What is this called?
environment
_____: To what degree am I able to allow myself to feel what other people feel?
Empathy
______: Am I okay the way I am? Is my friend?
Acceptance
Every stressful situation has two major parts:
1.?
2.?
the stress and the stressors.
What a person ______has a tremendous impact upon what he or she feels.
believes
*Name a belief you had in active addiction that has now changed since you have entered treatment.
Only after people’s basic biological needs are met, and they have some control over their environment, are they able to turn their attention to meeting _____ needs. The need for affection and love.
social
_____: Do I care about the issues that cause the other person concern?
Compassion
_____: Is my relationship built on truth, or are there games involved?
Honesty
Some of the things that you cannot change will be ______. These might include personal limitations, personality characteristics, psychiatric diagnoses, fears, and anxieties.
internal
Your irrational ____ ____ can be harsh and mean or blame you when things go poorly.
internal critic
_____-_____ is a way of saying that someone is becoming the best person possible, regardless of what kind of job, skills, or intelligence he or she has. What is important is how well people perform based on their own abilities.
Self-actualization
______: Do I treat the other person as though he or she is of value?
Respect
*Respectfully give your points to a person who is sitting directly to your left.
______: Am I able to talk freely about issues that are important in the relationship? Do I know how to talk in a way that I am understood and the relationship goes forward because of the sharing?
Communication
To a large degree, it is not events that cause stress or other feelings, but rather people’s beliefs about those events. It may help to look at stressful events as a three step process:
1.? 2.? 3.?
*Daily double
1. The stressor event 2. Beliefs 3. Emotional consequences
"You don’t do anything right. You are a total loser. You’re not going to make it through treatment.” To deal with this self-criticism, apply the challenge test:
1.?
2.?
1. Is there any evidence that the self-criticism is true?
2. Is there any evidence that the self-criticism is an exaggeration?
_________ means that people cooperate and share resources and strengths. The qualities of an interdependent relationship include (1) open communication, (2) shared decisions, (3) joint action, (4) trust, and (5) concern for each other
Interdependence
_______: In this relationship, to what degree do I and the other person like and dislike the same things? To what degree does it matter if I differ with others regarding certain attitudes and beliefs?
Compatibility
_____ _____: To what degree am I able to be honest with myself, as well as with the other person?
Personal integrity
*personally I think this should be a daily double if you answered correctly!