Relationships / Codependency
Name 5 traits of a healthy relationship
Any 5 appropriate answers: Respect, boundaries, compromise, honesty, forgiveness, etc.
What purpose do masks serve?
Survival, hide truth, protection, avoidance, have needs met, etc
Recovery is one big change, true or false and why?
False, it’s made up of a lot of little changes overtime
What can be hard to have but easily lost?
Trust
Who does forgiveness most benefit?
Ourselves.
It’s a gift we give ourselves!
My mom told me to stop impersonating a flamingo.
I had to put my foot down.
Name 2 signs of Co-dependency
Unbalanced relationship, denial, low self-esteem, giver/taker, enmeshed boundaries, control, etc.
What are the family rules that are often a cause for continued dysfunction?
Don’t Talk
Don’t Trust
Don’t Feel
Someone who does not see any problem and does not want to change is in which stage?
Pre-contemplation
Why is honesty key to recovery?
Secrets keep you sick, there is no addiction without lies, etc.
Forgiveness is a decision to let go of what?
Resentments and anger
Why can’t I take my dog to the duck pond anymore?
He is pure bread
Name the three points of the drama triangle
Victim, rescuer/hero, persecutor/bully
Name 2 traits of a healthy family
Communication, Consistency, Support, Values, Feelings are okay, no secrets, Acceptance, etc.
Name all the stages of change
Pre-contemplation, Contemplation, Preparation, Action, Maintenance
Telling my sponsor about my fight with my mom, but not sharing that I relapsed is what kind of lie?
Omission (omitting an important part)
How can holding on to resentments and not forgiving someone (including our self) impact recovery?
Any appropriate answer
Why do melons have weddings?
Because they cantaloupe
Name 3 ways relationships can impact recovery in a positive or negative way.
Any appropriate answer
Name 1 Type of mask
People pleaser, overachiever, victim, “I’m Fine,” humor, bully, academic, etc.
Name 1 barrier to making change.
Any appropriate answer: overconfidence, pressure, external motivation, hurrying, not prepared, etc.
Name 5 benefits of trust
Any appropriate answer : Improved communication, less stress, more confidence, support, growth, open-minded, connection, etc.
What is one sign of a resentment?
Reoccurring thoughts, anger, frustration, bitterness, regret, avoiding, grudges
Why do bees have sticky hair?
Because they use honey combs
Name one skill to help develop healthy relationships.
Any answer: communication, honesty, boundaries, self-esteem, etc.
Name all 6 family roles that can develop in unhealthy families
Central figure/person using, hero, enabler, scapegoat, mascot, lost child
Provide an example of a statement from someone in the contemplation stage of change.
Any appropriate answer demonstrating ambivalence
Other than lying, what is 3 ways you can lose trust?
Stealing, not showing up, being late, sharing secrets, not following through, inconsistency, not being accountable, etc.
Name 2 things you can do to work towards forgiveness
Choose to forgive, put yourself in their shoes, talk about it, write, pray, practice gratitude, look at facts, etc.
How does a penguin build its house?
Igloos it together