Boundary Styles 1
True or False: Boundaries define what is acceptable, and what is not, in a relationship.
True!
True or false: It is possible to receive all positive or all negative information.
False. There's always a mix of positive and negative information being received.
Boundaries should be based on what?
Values, or the things that are important to you.
You always have the right to say what?
NO!
True or False: Giving the silent treatment is a good way to set a boundary. If you don't talk to them, they will know not to do that again.
No. This is passive aggressive and not a reliable way to communicate a boundary. You have to have a conversation for the message to be clear.
How do people tend to handle arguments in rigid boundary setting?
Someone with healthy boundaries is able to _ others without being too involved.
Support.
True or False: It's okay if you don't know your boundaries. You can make them up as you go.
False! Know your boundaries before entering a situation. This will make it less likely you'll do something you're not comfortable with.
Is the phrase "This is not acceptable" a healthy way to set a boundary?
Yes. It is clear without question and there is no doubt in what they want.
Is it good to plan ahead before having a boundary setting conversation?
Yes! This can help you feel more confident about your position.
True or false: Saying no most of the time is a healthy way to set boundaries? If false, what boundary style is it?
False. That describes someone who has rigid boundaries.
If I leave my purse with a stranger at the bank to go to the bathroom, what boundary style would you say I have?
Porous.
The worksheet reads, the porous boundary style is being "Overly trusting of others, even strangers."
What is the definition of personal boundaries?
Limits and rules we set for ourselves within relationships.
True!!
What word did Ms. Brenda and Mrs. Dary-L have a hard time pronouncing from the Setting Boundaries worksheet?
Ambiguity. :D
Porous, Healthy, and Rigid.
Finish this sentence: It is _ to have different boundary types in different relationships.
Possible!
True or False: Your best friends and family will have the exact same boundaries as you.
False! boundaries are yours and yours alone. They may align with those closest to you, but others will be unique.
When setting a boundary, it is okay to look around and fidget with you hair when communicating.
No. You want to use confident body language.
According the Boundary Styles worksheet, having rigid boundaries is shown as being what kind of circle?
Solid, with no gaps for receiving positive or negative.
Someone who has healthy boundaries communicates how?
Assertively.
Someone with porous boundaries is _ to adopt others' opinions.
Quick!
A person with _ _ can say "no" to others when they want to, but they are also comfortable opening themselves up to intimacy and close relationships.
Healthy Boundaries.
Is the phrase "This doesn't work for me so leave me alone, stupid" a healthy way to set a boundary?
No! It is clear without question and there is no doubt in what they want, but it is aggressive and disrespectful to the receiver.
Is it a bad thing if you have porous or rigid boundaries?
No. Our boundaries will be different depending on the relationship and topic. As long as you are consistently evaluating your boundaries, you are in a good space.