Communication & Feelings Identification Skills
Anger is the easiest emotion to show toward each other, yet it masks deeper feelings such as disappointment, shame, overwhelm, hunger similar to an iceberg
Purpose: Recognize the more vulnerable emotions hidden underneath the surface
What activity did we use to practice feelings identification skills?
What is the Anger Iceberg?
Why did we do the body mapping exercise?
Reminder: Identified areas in our body that we experience physical symptoms to different emotions
Ex: Nervous = sweaty hands, increased heart rate; Angry = Pounding in the head & tension in shoulders, face flushes red
What is enhancing mind-body awareness by connecting how our bodies physically react to different emotions
Why did we practice perspective taking?
REMINDER
Ex1: Baby + lake scene
Ex2: Face + word "LIAR"
Ex3: Bird holding something in mouth + man in a canoe on island (i.e. Coy fish, Sombrero)
Ex4: Old woman + young girl
What is building understanding by considering family members’ thoughts and reasons behind decisions. Being open to other family members point of view, reduces assumptions and negativity which allows for opportunity to reflect upon how your own behavior impacts others.
We took turns as both "the speaker" & "the listeners." The speaker described photograph consisting of different categories like holidays, food, animals as well as geometric shapes while the listeners drew what the speaker said without asking any questions
Name the activity or purpose for introducing this communication centered skill
What is Back-to-Back Drawing?
What is highlighting the importance of active listening and clear, concise instructions to reduce misunderstandings
Describe the 5-Senses Grounding Technique
What is a grounding technique that utilizing sight, sound, smell, touch and taste to slow down racing thoughts and reduce anxiety by anchoring the mind in the present moment
Alternative option: can substitute for "colors" & "shapes" as well
Describe what you learned or took away while doing the "Stranded on an Island" activity
Remember: Started with 25 essential survival items, but had to eliminate individually to 10 and then collectively to 5 (10 with the backpack).
What is your own reflection on what you learned.
Possible takeaway:
To promote collaboration and teamwork using process of elimination to strengthen reasoning and decision-making skills to resolve conflict
What do you think playing Feelings Charades (utilizing the feelings wheel) was intended to teach?
Ex: Austin was pulling his hair and mom interpreted that as frustration, when in actuality he was displaying boredom.
What is developing emotional awareness by utilizing our body language to express emotions instead of verbal expression
Do our emotions match the language our bodies are communicating to one another
Describe Categories grounding technique
Example: Animals, Colors, Countries, Vegetables & Fruits, Beer Brands, Game characters
What is a grounding technique that involves selecting a category and naming items within it for a set time (e.g., 15–60 seconds). This exercise shifts negative thoughts about past or future events to a topic of your interest intended to decrease feelings of distress and overwhelm through present-moment awareness
Intention is what someone meant to do. Impact is how your behavior actually affected another person (how your actions were perceived by/made the other person feel.)
Ex: You make a joke with your friends, but they don't laugh at it. Your INTENTION was to be funny, but your IMPACT hurt his or her feelings.
Why is it important to learn about intention verses impact?
What is understanding the influence our words and actions have on other people's feelings and reactions.
Which sentence below accurately reflects an "I" statement?
A. You never listen to me.
B. I feel unheard when I don't get a chance to finish my thoughts because it makes me feel like I don't matter to you.
C. You are so annoying.
What is B. I feel unheard when I don't get a chance to finish my thoughts because it makes me feel like I don't matter to you.
"I feel" (emotion) "when"(situation/behavior) "because" (reason why) ...
What skill could you practice to regulate your emotions?
What is whichever one works best for you!
Rewrite the sentences below utilizing the "I" Statement formula
"I feel" (emotion) "when"(situation/behavior) "because" (reason why) ...
1. You never listen to me.
2. You always leave your clothes on the floor.
What is any "I" statement sentence you choose!
Here are some example responses
1. I feel ignored when I try to communicate my feelings to you because my perspective isn't valued.
2. I feel stressed when I see messes because it adds more work to my plate.