Being Single
What does being single mean to you?
Single usually refers to someone who is not currently dating, in a relationship, or married.
In some contexts, "single" can refer to someone who is living independently, without a spouse or partner, but still actively engaged in other relationships (family, friends, community).
In a faith-based or religious context, "single" can imply someone who is not married but is also living a life of purpose, often in service to God or their faith. It may also indicate someone who is intentionally not pursuing romantic relationships at the moment, focusing instead on personal growth or spiritual development.
What does being set apart mean to you?
Being set apart means living intentionally according to God's calling, prioritizing His will over the pressures of the world.
It’s about being different in how we think, act, and love, reflecting God’s holiness and light in a world that often values other things.
Being set apart means dedicating oneself to a life of purity and faithfulness, seeking to honor God in all aspects of life.
What does "Holy by choice" mean to you?
"Holy by choice" means actively deciding to live a life that honors God, making choices that align with His will and values.
It reflects a personal commitment to remain set apart for God's purpose, choosing holiness in actions, thoughts, and relationships.
How can singles grow in spiritual maturity while waiting for God's timing in relationships?
Singles can grow spiritually by prioritizing prayer, studying Scripture, and seeking God’s guidance, building a stronger foundation for their future relationships.
Engaging in church activities, mentoring, and serving others helps build spiritual maturity, while also fostering a sense of purpose and fulfillment during the waiting season.
What are key biblical principles to guide single people in dating?
1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 teaches that we are to live in purity, avoiding sexual immorality. Single people should prioritize maintaining physical, emotional, and spiritual purity in dating relationships.
Proverbs 3:5-6 encourages trusting in the Lord with all your heart and acknowledging Him in all ways, including dating. Seek God’s guidance in choosing a partner who aligns with your faith and values.
Why are you single?
"I'm taking this time to focus on myself, grow spiritually, and build a strong foundation for my future."
"I'm waiting for a relationship that aligns with my values and purpose. I believe in waiting for the right person."
"I just haven't met the right person yet. I'm not in a rush; I trust the timing."
"Because I’m too busy being amazing on my own! But seriously, I just haven’t found someone who truly complements me yet."
"I’ve been focusing on other important aspects of my life right now—work, faith, personal growth—and haven’t prioritized dating yet."
"I’m not defined by my relationship status. Being single right now is a season, and I’m learning to embrace it fully."
"I believe that God has a perfect timing for everything, including relationships. I’m trusting His plan."
"I'm single because that’s where I am right now. It’s just how things have worked out."
"I’m enjoying this season of my life and learning a lot. I believe everything happens in its own time."
Do you think being set apart taps into your worth?
Being set apart highlights that our worth comes from God, not from fitting into societal norms or expectations.
When we live set apart, we align with God’s purpose for us, which gives us a deeper sense of value and fulfillment.
Being set apart means embracing a unique role in God’s plan, showing that we are cherished and important in His eyes.
Do you think some people are too holy to date?
Being holy does not make someone "too good" to date; it means they are committed to living according to God's standards, which can be an enriching foundation for a relationship.
Sometimes, people may become so focused on their own holiness that they distance themselves from others or expect perfection, which can make dating difficult or unrealistic.
How can you maintain joy and contentment in your relationship with God when society pressures you to be in a romantic relationship?
I remind myself that my worth and purpose come from God, not from societal expectations. I find joy in serving Him, growing spiritually, and embracing the unique calling He has for me in this season.
I practice gratitude for the blessings in my life, including the freedom and opportunities I have as a single person, and I build strong, supportive relationships within my faith community to combat feelings of loneliness.
How do you set healthy boundaries in relationships?
Set clear expectations for physical, emotional, and personal boundaries from the beginning, and communicate them respectfully to ensure mutual understanding and respect.
Surround yourself with trusted friends or mentors who can help hold you accountable and encourage you to maintain your boundaries, especially in challenging situations.
Do you think being single is a good thing or a bad thing?
Being single can be a great opportunity for personal growth, self-discovery, and focusing on your goals without external distractions.
Being single can sometimes feel lonely or isolating, especially if society pressures you to be in a relationship or if you long for companionship.
Are you okay with being set apart?
Being set apart allows me to focus on my relationship with God and live with purpose, even if it means not always fitting in.
While it can be difficult at times, being set apart helps me grow spiritually and reminds me that my true identity is in Christ.
How do you balance being single and holy when dating?
Maintain clear boundaries that honor God and ensure the relationship remains focused on mutual respect, spiritual growth, and purity.
In a dating relationship, prioritize building a strong spiritual connection, growing together in faith, and aligning your values with God's will.
How can one overcome loneliness while remaining committed to a life of holiness?
Spend time in prayer, worship, and Scripture to feel God's presence and find comfort, knowing He is always with you and provides peace.
Seek out community and invest in friendships, mentorships, and service opportunities to feel connected and fulfill your purpose, while staying focused on holiness.
Are your current relationships pushing you closer to God or further away from Him?
My relationships encourage spiritual growth, support my faith, and hold me accountable to my values, helping me stay focused on God’s purpose for my life.
I recognize that certain relationships might not align with my faith, so I need to set boundaries to protect my spiritual well-being and refocus on my relationship with God.
Should two people marry if they are going to be sexually active?
Marriage provides a committed, stable foundation for sexual activity, fostering emotional, spiritual, and physical intimacy in a secure relationship.
Sexual activity should not be the sole reason for marriage; it’s important to build a strong, healthy relationship based on mutual respect, love, and shared values.
Do you believe when someone is single, it defines their character?
Singleness is just a relationship status and doesn’t determine a person’s worth or character, which are shaped by their actions, values, and faith.
How someone embraces singleness—whether with contentment, maturity, and faith—can reflect aspects of their character and spiritual growth.
Is it okay to stay over at your partner's house if you are not married?
For some, staying over might be seen as compromising personal values or purity, while others may feel comfortable with clear boundaries in place.
In many Christian views, living together or staying over before marriage can create temptation and is often discouraged to maintain holiness and avoid compromising standards.
How do you handle feelings of frustration or impatience with God's timing in your life?
When feeling frustrated, I remind myself that God's timing is perfect. I turn to prayer, asking for patience and guidance, and trust that He is working everything for my good.
Instead of dwelling on impatience, I focus on personal growth and gratitude for where I am. I trust that this season of waiting is an opportunity to grow closer to God and prepare for His plan.
How do you handle emotional attachment in relationships, and do you know when it's becoming unhealthy or crossing boundaries?
I make sure to stay emotionally self-aware, recognizing when my attachment is becoming too strong or dependent. I set clear boundaries to maintain emotional health and avoid compromising my values.
I regularly communicate with my partner and trusted mentors about my emotions to ensure the relationship stays healthy. I also reflect on whether my feelings are leading me closer to God or distracting me from my purpose.
How can singles fully embrace their identity in Christ, especially in a culture that often prioritizes romantic relationships?
Singles can embrace their identity in Christ by prioritizing their relationship with God, recognizing that their worth is found in Him, not in romantic relationships.
By engaging in meaningful service and fellowship within the Church, singles can build strong relationships with others, finding fulfillment and purpose in their faith and community.
What does it mean to be “set apart” in today's world?
Being set apart means choosing to live by biblical principles and values, even when they contrast with mainstream culture.
It involves dedicating oneself to God's purpose, prioritizing spiritual growth and integrity over societal expectations or temporary trends.
How can singles discover and pursue their God-given purpose without feeling pressured to settle down or marry?
Singles can discover their purpose by investing in their relationship with God, serving others, and pursuing their passions and gifts, trusting that God's plan unfolds in His timing.
By seeing singleness as an opportunity to grow spiritually, develop leadership skills, and impact others, singles can fulfill their purpose without feeling pressured by societal expectations.
What are the greatest temptations you face in maintaining purity and holiness, and how do you combat them?
The desire for quick satisfaction in relationships or desires can be tempting. I combat this by focusing on long-term goals, prayer, and setting clear boundaries to honor God.
Society often normalizes casual relationships and compromises on purity. I resist this by staying rooted in Scripture, surrounding myself with supportive people, and reminding myself of my commitment to holiness.
What are some practical ways to stay content and joyful in the waiting season?
Focus on developing your relationship with God, investing in hobbies, and growing spiritually. Embrace this time as an opportunity for self-discovery and growth.
Engage in serving others and building meaningful relationships within your faith community. Helping others can bring joy, purpose, and a sense of fulfillment during the waiting season.