Size of The Problem
Fire, Earthquake, Danger, Tornado
These are EMERGENCIES! These are examples of size 5 problems
EMERGENCY! Fire, Earthquake, Danger, Tornado... Size 5 problems!
What size is your reaction? What can you do?
It's okay to have big reactions to size 5 problems
I can: Find an adult, Call 911, Try to stay calm and safe but it's okay to cry, scream, and be scared
You are playing your favorite video game and your mom lets you know it's time to stop and get ready for dinner.
How big is this problem? Why?
Small problem! Size 1. You can play video games another time. It's very important to show your parents respect and appreciation. Thank your mom for making dinner!
You are on the bus and you miss your stop. You don't know where you are...
How big is this problem? Why?
This could be a big problem... but it's important to stay calm! What are some things you could do to solve this problem?
You can't find your favorite t-shirt and you REALLY wanted to wear it today...
How do you react? What are some things that you could do?
This calls for a SMALL reaction. No yelling or crying is appropriate. You can look, ask your family if they've seen it, or just wear a different shirt! No biggie!
You fall on the sidewalk and scrape your knee. What size problem is that?
This is a small problem! Size 1 or 2. It's okay to ask for a bandaid or a hug, but it's not okay to scream or get angry.
Someone is Hurt or Bleeding, or someone is Destroying the classroom... Size 4 Problems!
What size is your reaction? What can you do?
It's important to stay calm, but it's okay to be worried, scared, or cry as a reaction to size 4 problems
I can: Tell my teacher or another adult, ask for help, go to nurse if I'm at school
Your dad asks you to put the laundry away. You don't want to do it now.
How big is this problem? Why
Small problem. Size 1. It's important that EVERYONE in a family helps with daily chores every single day.
While driving in the car with your family, you pass a building that is on fire.
How big is this problem? Why?
This is a big problem! It could be a size 3 or 4... or maybe even 5!
You were excited to play video games but you realize your PlayStation is broken
How do you react? What are some things that you could do?
Even though this seems like a BIG problem... it's not! How could you handle this? What are some things you could do?
Someone is hurt and bleeding
This might be a size 3 or 4. You should get help from an adult.
Someone is making fun of you or being a bully... SIZE 3 PROBLEMS
What size is your reaction? What can you do?
Stay calm and talk to adults, teachers, family about this type of problem
I can: feel sad, feel frustrated, take a break, leave the room to get a drink, find someone to talk to, tell an adult
**BONUS QUESTION! If someone says something to you that makes you upset, is it okay to hit them?
A member of your family falls down the steps at your house and breaks their leg.
How big is the problem and what do you do?
This is a big problem! Size #4. This is a time to find another adult. If the person is not RESPONSIVE, who can you call?
*BONUS QUESTION! What are some other reasons to call the police?
You are walking around in Downtown Fargo, and you can find your family
How big is this problem? Why?
Medium size problem. Size 3. What are some things you could do?
Your mom makes a dinner that you don't like
How do you react? What are some things that you could do?
This is NOT a problem and it's NOT appropriate to get mad or yell or have a big reaction. Be thankful for what you are given! If you want to, you could calmly talk to your mom about it... but the most important thing is that you show appreciation!
You have to work with someone you DON'T like during group work
This could be a size 1 or 2. This is not a big problem, but it is okay to feel irritated or sad - as long as you remain respectful
The class discussion is about something that you DON'T like to talk about! It makes you upset! Size 1 or 2 problem
What size is your reaction? What can you do?
It's is important to stay calm and respectful. Size 1 and 2 problems can be solved by talking calmly
I can: feel uncomfortable, feel disappointed, take a few deep breaths, take a break, ask to leave the room to get a drink
**BONUS QUESTION! If something is making you upset in class, is it okay to get angry and scream or cry?
You want to go to a friend's house but you are not allowed because everyone needs to stay in their own homes right now.
How big is this problem? Why is it important for everyone to stay in their own homes right now?
Small problem. Size 2.
It can be a bummer! It's okay to be sad. But it's important for everyone to stay in their own homes so that we all do our part to stop the virus from spreading. Remember to be thankful for the things that we have instead of upset about the things we don't!
You are at a store and someone is rude to you while you are paying for your items
How big is this problem? Why?
This could be a small problem or a medium problem. Size 2 or 3. What are some things you could do?
You are getting a snack out of the fridge and you SPILL and ENTIRE JUG OF MILK ALL OVER THE FLOOR!
How do you react? What are some things that you could do?
Accidents happen! It's ok! This is not a big problem and you should not have a big reaction. Apologize to your parents (because they spent money on that milk), and do a good job cleaning it up! Problem solved - no one is hurt - and life is good! Everyone makes mistakes!
You were excited for Mrs. Altendorf to let you play a game in class... But when you get to her room, you see that you are going to be doing progress monitoring instead!
This is a size 0 or 1... it's just a glitch! Sometimes it's uncomfortable when things don't go as expected, but life is always changing and that's ok!
Your mom/dad asks you to help clean the kitchen, but you were planning on playing video games....
What size is your reaction? What can you do?
It is NOT okay to have a big reaction to situations like this...
This is a good time to practice your Gratitude Attitude! Think about all the things that your mom & dad do EVERY DAY that help you. They do A LOT! Remember to be respectful and thankful. Help first, then play video games.
***Bonus question!! Is it okay to scream and throw a fit if you don't get to play video games??
You weren't listening to your parents so they took your phone away and you are grounded from video games.
How big is this problem? Why?
Small problem. Size 2. I know this MIGHT seem like a BIG problem, and you MIGHT have a BIG reaction... But it's important to remember that you are not entitled to phones and video games... your mom and dad work hard to give you those things. It's your job to work hard to show them that you appreciate everything they do for you!
You are fishing and don't catch any fish.
How big is this problem? Why?
This is a small problem... it's a bummer! But it's not really a problem. Remember to think about the good things... you GET to be outside, enjoy a beautiful day, be with family and/or friends... even without a giant bass, life is GOOD!
You wake up in the middle of the night because the smoke alarms are going off in your house
How do you react? What are some things that you could do?
Get out of the house! Try to stay calm, try to find your family members, then get out of the house as fast as possible!