At School
After lunch you begin to feel very sick and throw up. You are supposed to go to your classes after lunch. What is the size of this problem? What should you do?
Medium. You should let your parents or a staff member know.
John is scheduled to have art, but the teacher emailed and had to cancel for the day. What is the size of his problem and how should he react?
Small. John should understand that sometimes we have to be okay with change.
Todd was supposed to go to the movies with Jim, but Jim called and told him he was sick. Todd gets angry and hangs up on Jim. What size is the problem? How should he have reacted?
Small problem. Todd can understand that it is okay for plans to change and can set up another day to go to the movies.
You have to go to your brother's track meet this weekend. You seriously do NOT like track meets but they are making you go anyway. What is the size of the problem? What can you do to make yourself feel better about going?
Small problem. Sometimes we have to do activities that we don't want to do. Bring something to do that you enjoy during the track meet.
A man drove his car into your lawn and it knocked over your mailbox. The driver broke his arm and damaged his car. Your mom calls 911 to get help. What was the size of the problem and did the reaction match?
Medium to large. The reaction matched.
A classmate follows you around the gym and teases you about your new haircut. You calmly ask him to stop but he continues to make comments. What is the size of the problem? What can you do to solve the problem?
Small. If the classmate continues, inform a teacher or trusted adult privately.
Jake forgot the password to join a zoom class that is starting in 10 minutes. What is the size of the problem? What should he do?
Small. He could look up the password on Canvas or ask his parent or a teacher for help.
While waiting to get your lunch at the mall, your friend stands too close to you. What is the size of the problem and how should you react?
Small problem. Either move away or calmly and politely ask your friend to give you more space.
As you are walking to the trash, you spilled chicken soup all over the floor. Your mom just spent all afternoon cleaning the house. What is the size of the problem and what should your reaction be?
This is a small problem. Apologize and clean up the mess.
Marty's mom made meatloaf for dinner and she knows he STRONGLY dislikes meatloaf. Marty yells, "I can't believe that you would make this nasty food for dinner." What was the size of his problem and did his reaction match?
Small problem. His reaction did NOT match. He made it a bigger problem and probably upset his mom with his reaction.
Charles is humming really loudly as he watches videos in the classroom during free time. You don't like loud noises. What is the size of the problem and how could you solve it?
Small. You can go to a different part of the room or talk to a trusted adult.
You are completing an assignment on canvas that involves using the internet. All of a sudden your internet goes out. What is the size of your problem and how should you react?
Small to medium. You should ask your parents or teacher to help figure out how to get the internet back on so you can finish the assignment. You should remain calm.
Mike's friend asked him to tease another kid from school. You don't want to make Mike mad, but you don't want to be mean to another student. What is the size of the problem and what does your gut tell you about this situation?
Medium. Remember that healthy friendships don't involve doing things that make you feel uncomfortable. You can contact a trusted adult.
Jim was playing ball inside the house when his mom told him not to. Jim threw the ball and it hit and broke a lamp. What is the size of the problem and what should Jim's reaction be?
Medium problem. He should remain calm and tell his mom what happened. Jim should apologize to her and offer to help clean it up.
Emily writes in her journal when she is having a rough day. She is using her journal as a calm down tool. Does this reaction match the problem?
Yes, this reaction matches the problem
The fire alarm goes off while you are in the classroom. You can smell smoke. What size is this problem? What should you do?
Big problem. Stay calm and listen to trusted adults.
Mike dropped his computer and broke the screen. He needs his computer to do his remote learning classes. What is the size of this problem? How should he react?
Medium. Stay calm and ask your parents or teacher to help solve the problem.
You and your friend are walking to the park near your house. On your way a guy drives by and rolls down his window to offer you a ride. You don't take the ride but then your friend calls you a wimp for not getting in the car. What is the size of the problem and how should you react?
Medium- Large problem. You and your friend should immediately walk away and find the closest familiar adult. Your friend might have put you in a dangerous situation.
You and your family are driving to a restaurant and you see two cars crash into each other. What is the size of the problem? How should you react?
Large. You should remain calm. An adult should call 911 to help with the situation.
Your pet is sick and needs to go to the vet. You cry and yell at your parents and lock yourself in your room. Did your reaction match the problem?
No. It is okay to cry and be upset. However, we should talk to our parents about how we are feeling.
You are walking in the hallway and someone bumps into you. You are not hurt and the person apologizes.
What is the size of the problem and how do you react?
Small. You can accept the apology of the other person because you understand it was an accident.
Tom and Joe are working together in a breakout session. Tom is upset because Joe is moving too fast on the work and Tom can't keep up. What is the size of this problem? How should Tom solve the problem?
Small. Tom should calmly ask Joe to slow down or ask the teacher to enter the breakout room to help.
Emily is upset that her friend is unable to go to the mall with her today due to her having plans with another friend already. What is the size of her problem? What should her reaction be?
Small. Emily should be understanding that her friend already has plans. They could plan a time another weekend to go to the mall together.
You get home from school and your parent tells you that your family member is sick and in the hospital. You are really upset and scared. What is the size of this problem? What should you do?
Medium-Large. You should explain your feelings to your parent and use a calm down strategy.
One of your friends is moving to a new school. You are upset because you want to stay friends. You and your friend come up with ways to stay in touch. Does this reaction match the problem?
Yes. This is the right reaction to have when your friend is moving and you are going to miss them.