DEAR
Name 2 unhelpful ways to communicate and 2 helpful ways to communicate
Unhelpful: yelling, screaming, hitting, kicking, ignoring, refusing to participate, demanding things.
Helpful: using DEAR, asking for help, using kind words, accepting "no"
How long do you hold your breath during 4x4 breathing?
4 seconds.
What body clues do you get when you are at a high mood rating?
Possible answers: hot, sweaty, stomachache, headache, dizzy, shaky
True or false, we have emotions underneath anger sometimes.
TRUE!
Would you rather speak every language in the world or talk to animals?
Interesting!
When we are asking for what we need, should it be realistic?
Yes, definitely.
What are the 5 senses?
Sight, Taste, Smell, Touch, Hearing.
What skills can you use to handle body clues?
Possible answers: TIP, wise mind, positive self talk, mindfulness
Name two emotions that might be under anger (our hidden emotions).
Nervous, embarrassed, sad, uncomfortable
If you could have any magical power, what would it be?
AMAZING
What should our reaction be if the listener says "no"?
Still have a calm body and accept the "no", we can use another skill such as radical acceptance, 4x4 breathing, lemons to lemonade and positive self talk.
True or False, you can only use 4x4 breathing at home?
FALSE! You can use it anywhere!
What body clues might we get at school?
Shaky, stomachache, sweaty, etc.
What is a skill you can use to help cope with your hidden emotions?
Positive self-talk, DISTRACT, lemons to lemonade, wise mind
What is your favorite salty snack?
YUM.
What does DEAR stand for?
D: describe the situation
E: express your emotions
A: ask for what you need or want
R: reward the listener
What shape can you trace as you are using 4x4 breathing?
A square.
What emotions might we be feeling if we are having body clues?
Possible answers: nervous, worried, upset, embarrassed.
Name a situation where you acted angry and thought you were angry but might have actually been feeling another emotion.
Losing a baseball game, getting an answer wrong
If you could create a holiday, what would it be?
Creative!
Use a DEAR to ask a therapist for a break
NICE!
It may sound like : "The situation is I am at Compass, I am feeling nervous, can I please take a break? Thanks for listening"
What is one way you can use each of your 5 senses to lower your mood rating?
Example for Sight, Taste, Smell, Touch, Hearing.
What is a false alarm?
When we experience a body clue with NO threat to safety.
What percentage of our iceberg is actually seen by other people?
A.) 50%
B.) 10%
C.) 90%
D.) 100%
B.) 10%
If you were given a million dollars and had to spend it all in one week, what would you buy?