What's the Feeling?
You learned something in class that used to confuse you.
You might feel proud, relieved, confident, or accomplished.
Someone says something that annoys you in class.
What’s one thing you can do instead of reacting right away?
Good coping!
“Whatever, it’s fine.” (but you’re clearly upset)
What communication style is this?
What’s a better way to say it?
Passive
You might say something like “I’m actually a little upset about that.”
You didn’t get much sleep and feel exhausted at school.
What’s one way to take care of yourself today?
Suggestions: Rest when you can, take a break, drink water, go to bed earlier
You make a small mistake and think, “I’m so dumb.”
What could you say to yourself instead?
“Everyone makes mistakes. I’m still learning.”
or
“I made a mistake, but that doesn’t define me.”
You text someone, and they don’t respond, but you see them active.
You might feel frustrated, confused, anxious, or left out.
You feel yourself getting really overwhelmed at school or at home.
What’s something you can do in the moment to calm down?
There you go!
“You’re so annoying, just stop.”
What communication style is this?
What’s a better way to say it?
Agressive
You might say, “Hey, that’s bothering me-can you stop?”
You’ve been on your phone for a long time and feel drained.
What’s something you could do to take care of yourself?
Suggestions: Take a break from screens, go outside, stretch, do something offline
You try something and it doesn’t go well, so you think, “I’m just bad at this.”
What’s a better way to think about it?
“I didn’t do well this time, but I can get better with practice.”
or
“This is hard right now, but I can get better at it.”
You hang out with friends and actually feel included and comfortable.
You might feel happy, comfortable, accepted, or relaxed.
You’re about to send a text you might regret.
What’s a better move before hitting send?
Great job!
“Do whatever you want, I guess.”
What communication style is this?
What’s a better way to say it?
Passive-aggressive
You might say, “I’d rather we do something else- can we talk about it?”
You haven’t eaten much all day and feel low energy.
What’s a way to take care of yourself?
Suggestions: Eat something, drink water, take care of your body
You feel like people don’t like you, but you don’t actually know that for sure.
What’s another way to look at it?
“I don’t actually know that—my brain might be assuming.”
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“I don’t actually know that. I might just be overthinking.”
Your parent/guardian won’t let you do something your friends are doing.
You might feel frustrated, disappointed, left out, or annoyed.
You’re in an argument and starting to get really worked up.
What’s something you can do to keep it from getting worse?
Great use of coping skills!
“I feel like you’re not listening to me.”
What communication style is this?
What’s a better way to handle it?
Assertive
You’ve been around people all day and feel overwhelmed.
What’s something you could do to take care of yourself?
Suggestions: Take space, have quiet time, listen to music, be alone for a bit
You compare yourself to someone else and feel like you’re not as good.
What could you tell yourself in that moment?
“They’re good at that, and I have my own strengths too.”
You try something new, and it doesn’t go as you hoped, but you didn’t give up.
You might feel disappointed, proud, frustrated, or determined.
You feel disrespected by someone and want to react immediately.
What’s a way to handle it without making the situation worse?
Good job!
You’re upset but say nothing and avoid the person
What communication style is this?
What’s a better way to handle it?
Passive
You might say, "Can we talk about what happened earlier?”
You’ve been busy all week and haven’t had any time to yourself.
What’s one way you could take care of yourself?
Suggestions: Make time for yourself, rest, do something you enjoy, take a break
You’re having a bad day and start thinking, “Everything is going wrong.”
What’s something you could remind yourself?
“Today’s been rough, but it’s just one day.”
or
“Some things went wrong today, but not everything.”