Recognize
What does Recognize mean in the steps of addressing bullying?
Recognize the difference between conflict and bullying.
What does it mean to "refuse" in bullying?
Say "stop" and tell someone that their behavior or words are not okay.
What does it mean to "report" with bullying?
Tell an adult what's happening and ask for help.
What does STEP stand for?
Say the problem without blame.
Think of solutions.
Explore the consequences
Pick the best one
How is bullying different from conflict?
Bullying is intentionally mean, repetitive, and the target is not able to make is stop.
Conflict is a disagreement between two or more people on perception or opinion.
Jack sits in the back of the bus in front of the 5th graders. Every time he gets up to walk out of the bus, one of the boys grabs his backpack and jerks him back while the other kids laugh. How could he refuse this behavior?
Tell the boys to stop. Their behavior is not okay.
Sam notices that Jarrell won't let the kindergarteners pass in the hall unless they give him a hug. Sam has told him that this behavior is not okay, but Jarrell told him to mind his own business. How could Sam report the issue?
Tell Jarrell's teacher or the kindergarten teacher what's happening and ask the teacher not to mention names.
What does it mean to "fill a bucket?"
Do something kind for another person.
Matty notices that there is an extra poptart on his desk this morning when usually there is two. Peter starts yelling at Matty for stealing his poptart off of his desk. Is this bullying or a conflict?
Conflict: differences in perception
Wendy and Sarah walk together to lunch each day. Sarah is usually pretty nice when they are together by themselves, but once they get to the lunch room with Sarah's other friends, Sarah will say something mean about Wendy's clothes and shoes. How could Wendy refuse this behavior?
Tell Wendy to stop and talk to her on the way to the lunch room in private.
Jack was reviewing his snapchat last night when he noticed some mean comments on Aria's post. A lot of girls will telling her she's ugly and dumb. What could Jack do to address the issue?
Type something kind and tell the girls to stop. Reach out to Aria and ask if she's okay. Take a screenshot and show it to his parents or teacher.
What is Respect?
Treating another person the way they would like to be treated.
Ty has been tapping his pencil on his desk while doing work. Mark has asked him to stop and he keeps tapping his pencil anyway. Is this bullying or a conflict?
It depends: Conflict if Ty is not intentionally trying to cause frustration and just doesn't notice.
Bullying if Ty knows it bothers Mark and it attempting to cause feelings of frustration.
Marcus and Barry have been playing basketball each day at recess. Wendy has asked them to play each day and they told her no girls allowed. Chris decided to play with them today and notices this isn't right. What could he do as a bystander to refuse this behavior?
Tell them girls can play too and excluding could get them in trouble.
Mark and Peter usually play squads on Fortnight. They decided to play with Roger and Denny tonight and connect through their headsets. Denny keeps taking Peter's loot, laughing and saying Peter's "gay" and "retarded." What could Mark and Roger do to address the issue?
Tell Denny that behavior is not okay, not laugh, and tell him they will not play with him if he continues to be inappropriate. Report his behavior and get him blocked.
What is Responsibility?
Doing the right thing, even when no one is looking.
Marcus and Barry have been playing basketball each day at recess. Wendy has asked them to play each day and they told her no girls allowed. Is this bullying?
Yes. Excluding others is considered bullying.
Jack sits in the back of the bus in front of the 5th graders. Every time he gets up to walk out of the bus, one of the boys grabs his backpack and jerks him back while the other kids laugh. Maria sits in the back with the 5th graders and notices that Jack gets upset each time this happens. How can she refuse this behavior as a bystander?
Tell them to stop, remind them that it's bullying and tell them about the camera at the front of the bus that could get them in trouble if reviewed.
Dynasty is walking to class and some boys have been poking her bottom with a pencil. Each time she turns around they laugh and say they didn't do anything. She has asked them to stop, but they just laugh and tell her she likes it. What could Dynasty do to address the issue?
Talk to a teacher. Go to the school counselor or the front office to request a bullying report form.
Why do we have rules at school? What are some rules that you don't understand and you still have to follow?
To keep us safe and make sure that we can learn skills to help us live on our own in the world.
Walking around the teacher lounge and not through the teacher lounge even when it's shorter to walk through.