Using Self-Control
What does self-control mean?
Managing your actions and choosing how to respond.
What is corrective feedback?
Information about something that needs to change or could be improved.
What does it mean when two people have different opinions?
They think or feel differently about something. Neither person automatically has to change their opinion.
What is a preference?
Something you like, dislike, or would rather choose.
Before trying to solve a problem, what should you do first?
Figure out what the actual problem is.
What is the FIRST step when you notice you're getting upset?
Stop and think.
Your teacher says, 'Check your answer again.' What's an appropriate first response?
Listen to the feedback and identify what the teacher wants you to check.
Your friend likes a game you think is boring. Do you have to pretend to like it?
No. You can communicate your preference without criticizing theirs.
What is a respectful way to tell someone you'd rather do something else?
'I'd rather ___. Could we ___ instead?'
You forgot your homework at home. What is the problem, rather than who is to blame?
The homework is not available at school when it's needed.
Name TWO ways your body might tell you you're getting upset.
tense muscles, clenched fists, faster heartbeat, louder voice, or feeling hot.
You receive feedback but don't understand what needs to change. What could you say?
'Can you show me which part I should check?' or 'Can you explain what I need to change?'
A classmate says their favorite subject is math, but you hate math. Give a respectful response.
'Math isn't my favorite, but it's cool that you enjoy it.'
Your group wants to play basketball, but you'd rather draw. Tell them your preference without criticizing basketball.
'I'd rather draw today. Could we do that later, or can I choose a different activity?'
A friend stops talking to you after a disagreement. What information might you need before deciding what to do?
What happened, what each person understood, and whether the friend wants to talk or needs space.
Someone makes an annoying comment. You're about to yell. What should you ask yourself before reacting?
If I lose control, what could happen?
A student says, 'I already know how to do it!' and refuses to check their work. What could they do differently?
Listen, identify what needs to be fixed, try the correction, and ask for help if needed.
Someone says, 'That's a stupid idea,' when their friend suggests a game. What could they say instead?
I'd rather play something else. Could we take turns choosing?' or another respectful alternative.
A student says, 'Your idea is terrible. We're doing mine.' Identify TWO things they could change.
Use respectful language and acknowledge the other person's preference. They could also suggest a compromise.
A student says, 'My teacher hates me!' after being corrected. What's the difference between that thought and the observable problem?
The teacher provided a correction. The student's interpretation of the teacher's feelings isn't established.
A student loses a game and throws the controller. What could they do differently? Show the self-control steps.
Stop, notice frustration, consider what could happen, then choose another response such as requesting a break.
ROLE-PLAY: I tell you that your assignment is missing two important details. Show how to respond and correct your work
Listen, identify what's missing, try to fix it, ask for help if stuck, then check the correction.
ROLE-PLAY: You and your friend disagree about the rules of a game. Show how to handle the difference without arguing.
Listen to the other person's view, share your own respectfully, and agree on rules or a fair solution.
ROLE-PLAY: You and your friend want different activities. Show how to communicate your preference and find a fair solution.
State your preference, listen to theirs, and suggest taking turns, compromising, or respectfully declining.
ROLE-PLAY: You and a partner are arguing because your project isn't finished. Define the problem clearly before suggesting a solution.
Describe what isn't finished, identify what is preventing progress, and state what needs to happen next.