with school
Frame this positively!
"I'm so dumb for failing that quiz."
Possible answer:
"One quiz doesn't define how intelligent I am, I can learn from it and use it to get better."
Frame this positively
"They didn't text me back -- they must hate me."
Possible answer
"There is so many reasons, I'll give them grace."
Reframe
"Ill never figure out what I want to do."
Possible answer
"It's okay to take time, it's a layered decision. There is a direction for me, and I will find it."
Frame this positively!
"Everyone else gets this but me. I'm falling behind."
Possible answer
"Everyone learns at their own pace -- i'll get it with practice."
Frame this positively
"I have to be perfect to make them proud."
Possible answer
"They love me for who I am, not just what I do."
Reframe
"I ruined everything back there."
Possible answer
"I did the best I could with what I knew then, I've grown as a person from it. Isn't that what matters?"
Frame this positively!
"I'll never finish this project on time."
Possible answer:
"If I could break it into steps, I'll feel less overwhelmed and can finish it."
Frame this positively
"We keep arguing -- they'll never understand me."
Possible answer
"We see things differently, but I can still communicate respectfully."
Reframe
"I'm not good enough to reach my dreams."
Possible answer:
"With effort and belief in myself, I can grow towards them."
Frame this positively
"I'm not smart enough for this class."
Possible answer:
"With the right amount of effort and support, I'll improve."
Frame this positively
"I'm not fun or interesting enough."
Possible answer
"I have my own unique qualities that make me good company in my own right."
Reframe
"I wish I could erase my past."
Possible answer
"my past shaped me into who I am"
"My grades define my worth"
Possible answer
"My value is more than my grades, I'm learning and growing."
Frame this positively
"They always compare me to others."
Possible answer
"I'm on my own path - comparison isn't fair nor right."
Reframe
"Everything could go wrong."
Possible answer
"But everything could go right. I can prepare and hope."