Key Terms
Understanding another person's emotions enough to truly identify with or even feel how he or she might be feeling in a situation.
What is empathy?
If there is no danger, picture the situation as a scene in a comedy and see if you can laugh at yourself.
What is looking for humor?
The event of situation that can cause a person to feel a particular emotion like anger
What is a trigger?
Looking at things in only extreme or opposite ways (e.g., thinking of things as being good or bad, never or always, all or none, friend or enemy).
What is black and white thinking?
One or both people agree to give up a little of what they originally wanted but are okay with it in order to resolve conflict.
What is compromise?
Realizing that another person is having an unpleasant experience and being willing to assist or comfort them
What is sympathy?
Asking yourself if I do [blank], what will happen?
What is using if-then statements to consider the consequences?
The emotion you have because of the situation
What is binocular vision?
Both individuals decide on a resolution or plan?
What is agreement?
Looking at things differently or seeing things from another perspective?
What is reframing?
Sitting with a person with whom you're upset and trying to better understand why that person might be doing something.
What is active listening?
What you decide to do or say when you realize that a particular situation is making you angry
What is a decision/action?
Thinking about only the negative parts of things?
What is dark glasses?
Both people decide this is something they will likely not agree on and they will accept this fact.
What is agreeing to disagree?
This is a type of thought aimed at oneself or the things we say to ourselves. It can be positive, negative, or neutral.
What is self-talk?
You can say something like, "I need to take a break" or "I won't respond to this text right now or I might say something I'll regret. I'll come back to it later when I think more clearly."
What is taking a walk or stepping away?
What happens as a result of what you decided or did
What is a consequence?
What is fortune telling?
Asking an objective, outside party or someone you trust who can help give you responsible suggestions?
What is seeking guidance?
These are thoughts or patterns of thoughts that are inaccurate, unrealistic, or distorted interpretations of events.
What is a thinking trap?
See if you can determine a problem to be solved. See if there are any other emotions that could be making you feel angry.
What is asking yourself why you're angry (problem-solve)?
True or false: There is a tri-directional relationship between our thoughts, feelings, and actions?
What is true?
Judging something based on one experience with it?
What is broad brush?
Both people agree to do one thing in exchange for something else (e.g., "If I do this, will you do that?")
What is making a deal?