Boundaries
This is the dividing line between what behavior you’ll allow from others or what they’ll allow from you
What is a boundary?
'S' stands for:
A: Silly
B: Stop!
C: Stand
True! True friends will accept you as you are and you do not feel unsafe being around these people.
How do you tell the difference between positive/smart choices and negative/bad choices?
Your answer! Hint: what can be helpful to think about when deciding on a choice to make?
This person invented basketball in 1891
James Naismith, a PE teacher
What is a boundary you set with someone recently?
Your own answer
'T' stands for:
A: Turkey
B: Trot
C: "Take a step back"/"take a breath"
C: "Take a step back"/"take a breath"
Why is this important?
T or F: Good friends apologize when they do or say something to hurt your feelings. They do not go out of their way to hurt you or embarrass you.
True! Apologizing shows that your friends care about how you feel. True friends will not try to embarrass you or hurt your feelings on purpose.
T or F: Bad/negative choices usually bring on more negative feelings or stress
True! Can you think of a specific situation for yourself that relates to this?
Basketball was originally played with a ____ ball.
Soccer!
How would you set a boundary with a classmate that wants to copy your homework?
Your answer!
'O' stands for:
A: oregano
B: organize
C: observe
C: observe!
What am I thinking?
What am I feeling in my body?
Where is my focus?
What am I reacting to?
T or F: Being good friends means I can do or say anything and my friends won't care. I don't have to check in with them to make sure they are comfortable with what I am doing or saying.
False! It's always a good idea to check in with your friends to make sure that what you are doing or saying isn't making them feel uncomfortable.
T or F: Bad choices tend to make things worse than they were.
True! Can you think of an example of this for yourself or another person?
In the early years of basketball, this was not allowed.
Dribbling!
Your answer?
'P' stands for:
A: Princess
B: proceed
C: pocket
B: proceed!
Get perspective!
Look at the bigger picture
What will be the consequences of my actions?
Proceed mindfully
T or F: Maintaining good boundaries is not important with close friends.
False: Maintaining good boundaries, checking in to make sure your friends are comfortable (and you are too) is very important to maintaining healthy friendships!
T or F: Smart choices get rid of the stress and bring better feelings.
True! Can you think of an example for yourself or another person?
Michael Jordan paid fines for wearing his shoes on the court: T or F?
True! Michael Jordan paid an NBA fine each time he wore them rather than play the game without them.
When you are deciding how to act, respond, or actions to take in general. It gives you time to pause on what you are thinking of doing so that you have a better chance of making a good choice!
T or F: Smart choices make things better.
True! Can you think of an example of this for yourself or another person?