Expected Vs. Unexpected
You see a friend at the library and shout out their name.
Unexpected
You sit next to your friend at lunch and notice they are a lot quieter than usual. What might they be feeling?
Sad, tired, bored, distracted
You miss your bus. How big is this problem?
Small, or medium
What tool would you use to figure out what a friend who is crying is feeling.
Eyes, Ears, Heart
Your friend falls and hurts themselves. You see what happens but just keeps playing.
Unexpected
Your brother walks away from you and goes to his room, slamming the door. What might he be feeling?
Angry, annoyed, upset, embarrassed
Someone walks by and accidently pushes you, you did not fall over or get hurt. What size is this problem?
Small
What tool might help you discover what a friend who is being very quiet is feeling?
Mouth! Ask them what is up? Heart, care about how they are feeling.
Your teacher asks a question to the class. You know the answer and raise your hand and wait your turn to be called.
Expected
Your friend just found out their favourite activity is canceled today because the teacher is sick. How might they be feeling?
sad, upset, disappointed, annoyed
Your brother is choking on a pickle. What size is this problem?
Big! Because you need to get help.
What kind of smarts do you use to discover how your friends might be feeling?
Social smarts
You are chatting with a classmate and they are talking about your least favourite band. You say " I hate that band" and walk away.
Unexpected
You and your team win a game at gym class. Everyone that won is yelling and high-fiving, but the other team is quiet. What could you do to help them feel better?
Say "good game", let them know that they might win next time, be mindful of the other teams feelings, etc.
Your group of friends is fighting this week and asking you to pick sides. What size is this problem?
Small/medium
What are the 5 social detective tools?
Eyes, ears, mouth, brain, heart.
A classmate you have had trouble with in the past comes up to you on the playground and kicks you. Instead of kicking them back you walk away and ask a teacher for help.
Expected
It's April fools day and you play a funny trick on your mom. Instead of laughing she stays quiet and looks down at the ground. Why might she do this?
Because she didn't think it was funny.
A classmate starts yelling at another student because he thinks they cheated at a game.
What is the size of the problem and what is the size of his reaction?
This is likely a small or medium problem but a big reaction.
What tool helps you uses empathy?
Your heart!