Conversation Skills
What are the 6 things we use to show active listening skills?
1. Eye contact
2. Focus
3. Nonverbal Cues
4. Think about emotions
5. Picture what is being said
6. Show we are listening with the things we say
What is perspective taking?
Perspective taking is when you think about the people around you. We try to put ourselves in someone else’s shoes and imagine how they are feeling by reading their mood.
What is self-esteem?
Self-esteem is a way of thinking and feeling about yourself
What is self-advocacy?
Self-advocacy is standing up or speaking up for yourself in order to let others know what you want or need.
What is Rejection?
Not getting what you wanted
Not being picked for something
Feeling left out
Being turned down
What does brain eater do to our brain?
Get stuck thinking about your favorite topic
Show videos or pictures in your head that are fun to think about, even though other are trying to talk to you or it is learning time
Say things that are off-topic
Focus on touching or playing with things that are around you
Why does perspective taking matter in conversations?
If you are having a conversation with a friend, you need to be able to think about what they like to talk about and what they enjoy. When we listen and focus on what the other person is interested in, this will more likely lead to a more positive interaction. When we have good conversations that make the other person feel happy too, we will make a deeper connection with them.
What tools can you use to help with your self-esteem?
1. Use positive self-talk to help you get through it (ex: “I can do it.” “It’ll be okay,” “I can try again next time”)
2. If you feel like you are not good at something or can’t do something, don’t give up, keep trying!
3. If you’re nervous about a situation, you can act it out with your parent or a friend beforehand to give you confidence to go into that situation.
Why should we advocate for ourselves?
When we advocate for ourselves, it lets other people know what we are thinking and how we are feeling.
When others know what we are thinking and how we are feeling, they can change how they are acting so they can be more helpful and less hurtful.
How can we handle rejection?
Accept the Decision
Focus on ourselves
Take a minute to think about the great qualities that make you...you
Most of all, remember that being rejected doesn't mean that there's anything wrong with you, or that you should stop taking chances. Just keep being yourself and go after the things you want and your life will keep being pretty awesome
When you feel left out:
Use positive self-talk
Find something else you like to do
Ask another friend to hang out
How can we defeat brain eater?
Think about the topic
Move your body away from other kids that are distracting you
Move objects away from you so you are not thinking about playing with them
Why do we need to be able to take another person’s perspective?
If we accurately read people's moods, we will know what to say and how to respond
If we don’t read people's moods, we might continue behaviors that make others annoyed, upset or uncomfortable.
We need to think about a situation from another person’s perspective and then react appropriately!
Why is having positive self-esteem important?
It helps us manage our thoughts and emotions and tackle small problems by reducing our stress or frustration.
Self-esteem helps us try new things (i.e. a new sport, make a new friend, join a group).
Having positive thoughts helps us have confidence in who we are and helps us get through challenging times.
It is important for each of us to feel good about ourselves and proud of our accomplishments. Having positive self-esteem also helps us feel more comfortable which allows others to feel happy and comfortable around us too.
What are the three steps to self-advocate?
We talk to someone about our needs
We tell them the reason for our needs
What is resilience?
Resilience is learning from our mistakes and not giving up.
How can we keep a conversation going?
By making connected comments and asking relevant questions
What does it mean to tune-in?
We can show others that we understand their perspective by “tuning in” to how they are feeling!
ASK yourself: Do I need to tune in and adjust my words and actions?
We must decide if we should change our words and actions based on the nonverbal language cues we see and how someone may be thinking or feeling.
What is positive self-talk?
Self-talk is the inner voice that goes on inside our heads
Positive, self-talk is talking to ourselves in a kind way that makes us feel good
We can use “I” statements like, “I might not be good at math but I’m a really good writer!” Or, “I deserve better friends who are nice” to boost our confidence and tolerate small problems
When we use positive self-talk, it helps us feel more confident, builds our self-esteem, and allows us to tackle small problems by reducing our stress or frustration
How should we advocate for ourselves?
Use an appropriate volume
Use kind words
Use a friendly tone
Why should we keep trying?
It feels good to try and do our best
Even if you can’t see the results now, making an effort will contribute to progress (even if it’s in the medium to longer term)
The more you do it the easier it becomes; practice makes it better
What are some relevant questions we can ask?
We can ask wh- questions - who, what, where, when why, how
We can ask on-topic questions.
How do we read people's moods?
Facial Expressions
Body Language
Tone of Voice
The Situation
What are more ways to boost our self-esteem?
Spend time with people who like you and care about you.
Ignore (and stay away from) people who put you down or treat you badly.
Do things that you enjoy or that make you feel good.
Do things you are good at.
Reward yourself for your successes.
Be your own best friend - treat yourself well and do things that are good for you.
Make good choices for yourself, and don't let others make your choices for you.
Take responsibility for yourself, your choices, and your actions.
Always do what you believe is right.
Be true to yourself and your values.
Respect other people and treat them right.
Set goals and work to achieve them.
What happens when we advocate for ourselves?
When we communicate our needs and opinions appropriately and respectfully to our peers and adults, they are more likely to listen and respect us in return.
It is easier for people to help us out when they know how we are feeling!
It is easier to compromise with people when we advocate for our wants and needs.
When you feel like giving up how can you use positive self-talk instead?
Remind yourself you can do it
Think of how good it will feel once you achieve your goal
Remember that with practice you will get better
Take a break and then come back to it with fresh eyes
Ask for help - it’s okay to ask for help when we need it!