Think it vs. Say it
What does “Think it vs. Say it” mean?
Some thoughts are meant to stay in your head and not be spoken out loud.
What does it mean to “read the room”?
Paying attention to how people are acting and feeling.
What’s one way to start a conversation with a peer?
Ask a question or make a comment.
What does it mean to compromise with a friend?
Both people give a little to make a plan that works for both.
What does it mean to “ignore a distraction”?
Focus on what you’re doing, even if something is trying to pull your attention away.
True or False: It’s okay to say everything you’re thinking as long as it’s true.
False – just because it’s true doesn’t mean it’s kind or helpful.
You walk into a quiet classroom and everyone is working. What should you do?
Stay quiet and find your seat.
What does it mean to make a connected comment?
A comment that matches the topic and shows you’re listening.
You and a friend want to play different games at recess. What’s one way to compromise?
Play one game now and the other later.
You’re trying to read but your classmate is making silly noises. What’s a calm way to stay focused?
Ignore them, take a deep breath, or move away if possible.
Your friend got a haircut you don’t like. What’s a “think it” thought you should not say out loud?
“It looks weird” or “I don’t like it.”
What might it mean if someone is looking away and crossing their arms while you're talking?
They might be bored, upset, or want space.
Your friend says, “I went to the zoo this weekend.” What’s a connected comment you could make?
“Cool! What animals did you see?”
What’s one way to show someone you’re a good partner in a group activity?
Listen to their ideas and help with the work.
Ask if you can play next round. Find another game to play in the meantime or watch the group play.
Role play: You don’t like the snack at a party. Show a “say it” and a “think it.”
Say it: “No thanks.” Think it: “I don’t like this.”
Role play: Show what it looks like when someone is ready to chat, and when they want to be left alone.
Look for facial expression, eye contact, posture.
What’s the difference between staying on topic and changing the subject? Why does it matter?
Staying on topic means continuing the same conversation; changing too fast can confuse or frustrate others.
You and your friend are having an argument. What’s one “I statement” you could use?
“I feel frustrated when I don’t get a turn.”
Your group doesn’t want to use your idea. What are 2 calm ways to handle that?
Go along with their plan, ask to take turns, or share how you feel politely (using an I Feel statement)
Explain why it’s important to think before you speak in a group setting.
To avoid hurting others’ feelings or making people uncomfortable.
Why is it important to notice nonverbal cues in a conversation?
So you can tell how someone is feeling and respond respectfully.
Someone is talking to you, but you’re distracted by something else. What are 3 things you can do to show active listening?
Face the speaker, look at them, and respond with words or nodding.
Why is it important to respect someone’s perspective, even if you don’t agree with it?
It shows you care about their feelings and builds stronger friendships.
Explain how using self-control helps you in a group project or game.
It helps you stay focused, get along with others, and manage strong feelings.