Expected/Unexpected
What does being “social”mean?
talking to others, being with others, playing with others, and how we get along with others
When we greet someone, we have to make eye-contact and give personal space. Define personal space and why it is important.
There should be about an arm's distance between you and the other person so that everyone feels comfortable.
If we don’t give others their personal space, they may feel uncomfortable.
Define perspective and perspective-taking.
Perspective: a point of view or what someone is thinking and/or feeling.
Perspective-taking: understanding someone else’s point of view or feelings.
What are 2 ways we can maintain a conversation? Provide examples of each.
1. Asking a question (i.e., who, what, where, when, why, how and which)
2. Making a comment (i.e., “Nice!”, “Cool!”, “Me too,” and “Have fun!”)
Name 2 examples of times you should be social, and one when its okay not to be social.
Some examples of times to be social: Social City, playground, birthday party
Some examples of times its okay not to be social: bed time, independent reading, homework
Define tone of voice and why it is important when initiating conversations.
If our voice is too loud or we act too silly it can make others feel uncomfortable. If our voice is too low, others won’t be able to hear us and they may feel confused.
What do we mean by “Put yourselves in the other person's shoe”? Why is this important?
This saying means trying to imagine how it would feel to be that person (ex: If your friend wants to play a game but you say “that’s a stupid game” How do you think he feels? How would you feel?)
It is important to think about others and what they may be thinking and be feeling, with the understanding that their feelings may be different than your own. When we think of others’ perspectives, it helps us solve problems, shows our friends that we care about them and their feelings, and makes us a better friend who people want to be around
What are non-verbal language cues? How does this help us maintain a conversation?
Non-verbal language cues: wordless movements people make with their faces & bodies that tell how they feel & what they are thinking .. can tell what people are thinking and feeling in a conversation by looking at their non-verbal language cues
Name one expected behavior and conversation, and one unexpected behavior in a conversation.
Expected: greeting others, looking at the person, body facing person
Unexpected: Lacking eye-contact, interrupting, turning your body, not answering a question
If you meet someone new, or see a friend on the street, how can you figure out what to say to them? There are 3 things!
look at clothes, what they are holding, what they are doing) You can figure out something they may like by looking for clues, just like a detective!
What is our social filter? How does it work?
Our brains have a SOCIAL filter. This is a thinking skill that most people can control without even realizing it.
Our Social Filter helps us say words and use actions that make people have good thoughts about us. We all have kind and unkind thoughts. It’s okay to have unkind thoughts, but we should keep them in our head to protect other people’s feelings- Think about what they might THINK or FEEL if we say something. Remember: We do not always say out loud what we are thinking.
Name 3 non-verbal language cues that demonstrate someone is interested in continuing conversation
They are looking at you
Body is facing you
Asking questions that are related to the topic
Making comments
Excited tone of voice
Why is it important to demonstrate expected behaviors in group conversations?
To make people have good thoughts about you! Others will think you are interested in being their friend.
Define small talk and give 3 examples of how you can use small talk to start a conversation.
Small talk is a quick, polite conversation.
We can make small talk by:
Asking a question: “How are you?”
Giving a compliment: “I like your train shirt!”
Making a comment: “It’s so nice out today!”
Give an example/ role play a situation where you have an unkind thought but recognize you should THINK it - and not say it.
Act it out!
Name a non-verbal language cue that shows someone is bored or not interested.
Role play a situation where one person uses a non-verbal language cue that shows you are bored or not interested in the conversation.
Looking away/ looking at something else
Not continuing the conversation (not asking questions or making comments)
Interrupting you to change the topic
Bored voice