Social Mysteries
What is a social mystery?
A mystery about other people that is puzzling and sometimes difficult to understand.
What is attention?
Focusing on something or putting your mind on it.
What is one prime suspect that we have discussed in this class?
Attention
Mood Missing
Topic Missing
Talking off topic
What is a social remedy?
A remedy is something that corrects a problem that created the social mystery
What is an example of a why mystery?
Why is someone acting a certain way?
What is a prime suspect in a social mystery?
The specific problem that is causing difficulty in a social situation.
What are two ways that we show people we are paying attention?
Look at them with our eyes, face them with our bodies, respond nonverbally, give answers that follow what they said
What is mood missing?
Missing the feeling or mood that someone is trying to share.
What does it mean to look at things from other people's points of view?
Understand how two people may see the same thing in two different ways?
Ex: A playing card has two different sides
What is an example of a how mystery?
How do I go about doing something or getting something I want?
ex: how do I get someone to like me
What is a social remedy?
Something that fixes the social problem.
How can you tell when someone is not paying attention on Zoom or Facetime?
Eyes not tracking and not answering questions correctly
What is talking off topic?
Talking off topic is when we respond to someone's story with something completely unrelated to the topic.
How can you tell the mood of a story?
Does the story have emotional words, like "excited" or "hopeless"?
Does the story have emotional ideas, like "It was a slow day. I just sat around."
What does the person's face look like and body language look like while they are telling the story?
What are two of the three major things that get in the way of us paying attention?
1. Thinking about other things (our mind)
2. Looking at other things (our eyes)
3. Doing other things (our bodies)
What are the four types of social mysteries?
What Mysteries, Why Mysteries, When Mysteries, How Mysteries
Why is attention important in a social situation?
Allows us to gather the facts, learn things, let people know we're interested in them, let people know that what they're saying is important
How do you identify the main topic of a story?
What seems most important?
What does the person keep repeating?
What part of the story has the most emotion?
What does it mean to "keep your eye on the ball"?
To focus our eyes on something in order to keep our attention on it.
Why is it important to respond to the mood of a story?
It lets people know that we care about them, what they say is important, strengthens our relationships. People like for us to understand their mood more than their thoughts or ideas.
What are 3 of the 6 Keys for Gathering Facts?
1. Collect the facts and write them down
2. Have eyes and ears open for clues
3. Attention to what people say and how they say it
4. Look for clues in surrounding events
5. Look for other points of view
6. Check the facts
What is the spotlight of attention?
Imagining you have a giant powerful spotlight shining in the dark on the thing you are paying attention to.
What is the difference between "topic missing" and "talking off topic"?
Topic missing: responding to a small detail of the story that was not the main topic
Talking off topic: saying something completely unrelated to the story
What is the Dot Method?
To draw or put a dot on your hand to remind you to pay attention. Each time you look at it, it reminds you to pay attention.
\What is one way of showing that your are paying attention while on Zoom or Facetime?
Look into the camera, nonverbal responses, ask questions that are on topic