What am I really feeling?
Anger is often a feeling that covers harder feelings. For example, when someone is mad it may be because there sad, lonely or tired.
You get called out at school for something you didnt do. Whats the emotion you feel under the anger?
embarrassment, feeling misunderstood, sad
Whats one small thing that can get you going in the morning even when your tired or unmotivated.
Listen to music
Shower
Goal for the day
Think about the consequences
Your about to say something really hurtful to someone else. Whats one trick to slow yourself down?
Take a deep breath, leave the room, talk to someone you trust about it
You walk away from a fight even though youre heated. What is a possible outcome?
Staying out of trouble
Feeling more in controlList 5 feelings
Answers vary.
You apply for a job or opportunity and dont get it. What might you say to yourself that makes you feel worse?
"Im not good enough"
"Why do I even try?"
"Ill never succeed"
Name one reason people give up on there goals
Comparing themselves to others
not seeing progress
unmotivated
no support
What happens to your body when anger builds up?
Faster heartbeat, clenched fist, shaking, upset stomach, heat in your face
You skip school because your mad. What is a consequence for this?
Falling behind, missing something important, upsetting your parent(s)
I wake up in the morning after sleeping three hours. I go to school and dont eat breakfast. I am trying to work on my math work now. I keep getting the questions wrong. What might I be feeling?
Mad, sad, frustrated, grumpy, furious
Your trying to change a bad habit but you mess up again. Whats something healthy you could remind yourself?
"Try again"
"Messing up doesn't mean I failed"
"I can learn from my mistakes"
You have a dream job or lifestyle. Whats one habit you can start now to get you there?
Waking up earlier
Good night sleep
Come to school everyday
Practice respect
Whats one thing that makes it harder to calm down
Loud noise, other people yelling, or replaying the situation in your head
You say something mean to someone in the heat if the moment. Would could happen?
you hurt your relationship with them, they say something mean, you get in trouble.
Distress tolerance is the ability to be relaxed when faced with difficulties.
If you show up at school having only slept three hours, skipped breakfast and have a test, how is your distress tolerance level?
low level of distress tolerance. Any challenges that come up or anything you struggle with will feel harder.
You keep trying in a class or subject that is hard for you, but nothing seems to work. What emotion can build up overtime besides anger?
Shame, hopelessness, anxiety, sadness
Whats the difference between being lazy and feeling stuck?
Lazy is choosing not to try, stuck means you need help or a plan
Whats one thing you can say to someone who is talking to you in a heated way?
"I need a minute"
"I feel uncomfortable"
Your offered something (like drugs or alcohol) at a party. whats a long term consequence if you say yes?
Hurt your health, damage trust, legal issues
Distress tolerance is the ability to be relaxed when faced with difficulties.
If you get eight hours of sleep, shower, give yourself enough time to get ready in the morning, get to school on time and have breakfast in the morning, what is your level of distress tolerance?
You would be able to handle more challenges or stressful situations.
You are looking to find a job, and your friend gets one before you. You say good job and smile to them when they tell you. What could you really be feeling inside?
Whats one way to motivate yourself when no one else believes in you?
Set small wins
Find support
Remember why YOU care
Whats one way to motivate yourself when no one else believes in you?
Set small wins
Find support
Remember why YOU care
You show up to school even when your not feeling it. Whats one possible reward?
Build good habits, being proud of yourself, others being proud of you
Distress tolerance is the ability to be relaxed when faced with difficulties.
If you get eight hours of sleep, shower, give yourself enough time to get ready in the morning, get to school on time and have breakfast in the morning, what is your level of distress tolerance?
What is the reason?
You are able to handle stressful situations and challenges better. This is due to having a full night of sleep, having food in your body and taking care of yourself.