What Am I Thinking?
What's Their Take?
The Right Move
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Real-Life Situations
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  • Scenario: Your friend didn't save you a seat at lunch today.
  • Question: What might YOU be thinking or feeling?
  • Sad, left out, confused, hurt, angry, lonely
100
  • Scenario: Your friend keeps checking their phone while you're telling them a story.
  • Question: What might THEY be thinking or feeling?
  • Distracted, worried about something, bored, waiting for a message, anxious
100
  • Scenario: Your friend said something hurtful to you.
  • Question: What's an appropriate response?
  • Tell them it hurt your feelings, ask why they said that, tell a teacher, walk away, take a deep breath first
100
  • Scenario: Your friend didn't invite you to hang out, but posted about it on social media.
  • Question: (A) What might THEY be thinking? (B) What are YOU thinking? (C) What should you do?
  • Sample Answers:
    • A) Forgot to ask you, didn't think you'd want to come, it was a small group, wanted to do something different
    • B) Hurt, left out, confused, wondering why, sad
    • C) Ask them about it, don't get mad right away, talk to them, give them a chance to explain
100
  • Scenario: You brought cookies to share with your class. Someone took two without asking and didn't say thank you.
  • Question: What might THEY be thinking? What are YOU thinking? What should you do?
  • Sample Answers:
    • A) Really hungry, thought it was okay to take them, didn't think about asking, wanted more
    • B) Annoyed, feeling like they were rude, wondering if you should have brought less, upset they didn't say thanks
    • C) Don't make a big deal, ask them to ask next time, bring more next time, let it go, talk to them about it
200
  • Scenario: A classmate you don't know well asked to copy your homework.
  • Question: What feeling or thought comes up for you?
  •  Uncomfortable, pressured, worried about getting in trouble, wanting to help but unsure
200
  • Scenario: Someone in your class is always quiet during discussions and group work.
  • Question: What could be their perspective?
  • Shy, anxious about judgment, introverted, doesn't understand the material, worried about saying something wrong, processing internally
200
  • Scenario: A friend is upset and won't talk to you about why.
  • Question: What should you do?
  • Give them space, ask again later, be patient, say you're there for them, don't push them
200
  • Scenario: Someone in your class is made fun of for being "different". You don't do it, but you don't help them either.
  • Question: (A) What might THEY be thinking? (B) What are YOU thinking? (C) What could you do?
  • Sample Answers:
    • A) Lonely, sad, wondering if anyone likes them, wishing someone would be nice
    • B) Uncomfortable, not sure what to do, scared of getting made fun of too, want to be nice but nervous
    • C) Be kind to them, tell them to stop, include them sometimes, stick up for them, be their friend
200
  • Scenario: You lent your favorite pencil to someone and they lost it. When you asked them about it, they just said "oh well" and didn't offer to replace it.
  • Question: What might THEY be thinking? What are YOU thinking? What should you do?
  • Sample Answers:
    • A) Feels bad but doesn't know what to do, thinks you're not that upset, careless, doesn't have money to replace it
    • B) Mad, disappointed, feeling disrespected, wishing they cared more, frustrated they didn't say sorry
    • C) Tell them how you feel, ask them to buy you a new one, don't lend to them again, accept it and move on, talk to them calmly
300
  • Scenario: A classmate laughed when you gave an answer in class.
  • Question: What might YOU think about this?
  • Embarrassed, worried people think I'm silly, upset, defensive, self-conscious
300
  • Scenario: A friend suddenly started hanging out with a different group at lunch.
  • Question: What might they be thinking?
  • Found new interests, wanted to expand their friend group, felt excluded from your group, trying new things, following someone they like
300
  • Scenario: A classmate spreads a rumor about you that isn't true.
  • Question: How should you handle it?
  • Confront them calmly, tell a trusted adult, don't retaliate, correct the rumor with friends, stay composed
300
  • Scenario: Your group project partner isn't doing their part and you're upset.
  • Question: (A) What might THEY be thinking? (B) What are YOU thinking? (C) What should you do?
  • Sample Answers:
    • A) Don't understand what to do, too busy, don't care about the grade, having problems at home, overwhelmed
    • B) Mad, frustrated, feel like you're doing all the work, worried about your grade, annoyed
    • C) Talk to them, ask if they need help, tell the teacher, try to understand why, work together to fix it
300
  • Scenario: During a group project, you did most of the work but your teacher gave everyone the same grade. Your group members didn't seem to care or notice.
  • Question: What might THEY be thinking? What are YOU thinking? What should you do?
  • Sample Answers:
    • A) Happy they got a good grade, didn't realize you did more, don't think grades are a big deal, relieved it's over
    • B) Angry, feeling cheated, frustrated, thinking it's unfair, wishing they had helped more, annoyed they don't care
    • C) Talk to the teacher, tell them how you feel but stay calm, next time don't do all the work, work with different people, learn from it
400
  • Scenario: Your classmate didn't invite you to their birthday party, but invited others.
  • Question: What feeling or thought comes up for you?
  • Hurt, confused, angry, left out, wondering why, sad
400
  • Scenario: Someone laughed when you made a mistake in class.
  • Question: What might THEIR perspective be?
  • Thought it was funny, nervous so they laugh, didn't mean to be mean, trying to fit in
400
  • Scenario: Someone takes credit for your work or idea in class.
  • Question: What's the right way to respond?
  • Speak up calmly, talk to them privately first, tell the teacher, explain what actually happened
400
  • Scenario: Your best friend is hanging out with someone else without telling you.
  • Question: (A) What might THEY be thinking? (B) What are YOU thinking? (C) What should you do?
  • Sample Answers:
    • A) Wanted to spend time with someone else, trying to make new friends, got invited, not trying to hurt you
    • B) Hurt, confused, mad, wondering if they still like you, scared the friendship is over
    • C) Ask them what's going on, don't assume the worst, talk to them, give them space, be honest about how you feel
400
  • Scenario: You made a joke in class that you thought was funny, but nobody laughed. A few people looked at you weird and then looked away.
  • Question: What might THEY be thinking? What are YOU thinking? What should you do?
  • Sample Answers:
    • A) Didn't get the joke, thought it was weird, uncomfortable, didn't want to be mean, didn't think it was funny
    • B) Embarrassed, wishing you hadn't said it, wanting to disappear, self-conscious, wondering why nobody laughed
    • C) Laugh at yourself, move on, don't keep bringing it up, remember they're not trying to be mean, try again next time, let it go
500
  • Scenario: You tried out for the sports team and didn't make it, but your friend did.
  • Question: What might be running through your head?
  • Disappointed, jealous, questioning your abilities, frustrated, determined to try again, doubting yourself
500
  • Scenario: A classmate didn't include you in their group project, even though you asked nicely.
  • Question: What could be going on in their mind?
  • They already have a group they're comfortable with, worried you'll slow them down, didn't hear you, have other friends they want to work with
500
  • Scenario: A friend is ignoring your texts and you don't know why.
  • Question: What should you do?
  • Give them space, ask them in person what's wrong, wait a few days, talk to them calmly, don't get mad right away
500
  • Scenario: Someone said something mean about you on social media or in a group chat.
  • Question: (A) What might THEY be thinking? (B) How does this make YOU feel? (C) What should you do?
  • Sample Answers:
    • A) Trying to be funny, mad at you about something, showing off for friends, not thinking before they posted, stressed about something
    • B) Embarrassed, hurt, angry, wanting to say something back, worried about what people think, sad
    • C) Don't respond right away, talk to them in person, tell an adult, take a break from social media, stay calm
500
  • Scenario: Your friend told you they didn't like the way you dressed for school. It was supposed to be a joke but it didn't feel like one and it hurt your feelings.
  • Question: What might THEY be thinking? What are YOU thinking? What should you do?
  • Sample Answers:
    • A) Thought they were being funny, didn't mean to hurt you, just trying to tease like friends do, doesn't realize how it sounded
    • B) Hurt, self-conscious about your clothes, mad they said it, wondering if others think that too, doubting your outfit choices
    • C) Tell them it hurt your feelings, ask them why they said it, give them a chance to apologize, forgive them if they say sorry, talk to them about it
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