Expected vs Unexpected
During an outside game, someone bumps into you and immediately says, "Sorry." You say, "That's OK" and continue playing the game. Is your behavior expected or unexpected?
Expected! The person apologized and didn't mean to bump you. You kept calm and continue on with the game knowing it was just an accident.
"I saw that you like to play soccer, can I play with you?" Should you think it or say it?
Say it!
You walk into class while everyone is quietly working and yell, "I'm back what are we doing?!!" Is this behavior expected or unexpected?
Unexpected. What could you do instead that would be a more expected behavior?
You are talking to your friend and are standing too close to them. How would your friend feel?
He/she may be uncomfortable.
There's a fire at school and someone gets hurt.
Is this a small or big problem?
Big problem! A fire is an emergency.
You are playing a team game in gym. Your team does not win. You immediately begin stomping your feet and yelling, "This game is dumb! I'm never playing that game again!"
What type of behavior is this? What is another way to respond?
Unexpected
Step away and take deep breaths, tell the other team "good game", drink water
"No one wants you here." Should you say it or think it?
Think it! This could make someone feel unwanted.
You are at recess and your friend is being mean to you. What do you do?
Politely tell them to stop bothering you and walk away. If they don't stop then go talk to an adult on the playground.
You are talking to someone and you start looking at the ground, other people, and anywhere but at them. How does this make the other person feel?
The other person's feelings may be hurt because you are showing that you're not interested and not paying attention.
Someone in your class gets upset and throws a toy at you.
Is this a small or big problem?
Big problem! You could get hurt, everyone needs to be safe with toys
Someone accidentally bumps into you as you are walking in the hall changing classes. You want to scream at them, but instead you wait five seconds and take a breath. What kind of behavior is this?
Expected Behavior! Even though you were upset and wanted to scream, you waited 5 seconds and took a breath to calm down instead of yelling.
In class your teacher says you are going to do a math game. You loudly say "UGH do we have to do this? I hate this game!"
Should you say it or think it? How do you think this makes your teacher feel?
Think it. This comment is not kind and probably hurts your teacher's feelings. She might feel sad because she spent a lot of time creating a game to try to make math more fun.
Your friend offers you a snack that you don't like. What do you do/say?
You can say "no thank you" or "thanks for the offer, but i'm okay."
You are talking to someone and you turn your back to them or you walk away. What would the other person be thinking?
You didn't want to talk to them
You didn't like them
You are upset with them
They must have said something wrong
You're waiting for a turn on the swings but recess ends before you have a chance to go on.
Is this a small or big problem?
Small problem. There will be lots of other chances to go on the swings.
Jenny is frustrated because she doesn't understand what to do. She refuses to do the activity and starts yelling at the teacher.
Is this an expected or unexpected behavior? What could you do instead?
Unexpected! Instead you can:
Ask the teacher for help
Ask if you can take a break
Drink water
Take 10 deep breaths
Use a quiet fidget
You notice something different about your friend today at school. You want to say "woah, you got new glasses, they are so cool!"
Should you say it or think it?
Say it! You are complimenting someone's looks in a positive way.
Someone cut you in line.
What do you do?
Is there a way to handle it yourself?
When do you tell your teacher?
When you are in a group, where should your body be facing when there is a conversation?
Your body should be facing the speaker.
Your friend gets really angry because you get a turn to use the iPad and they don't and they hit you.
Is this a small or big problem?
Big problem! It's never okay to hit or hurt people.
In gym class, we were playing dodgeball. My friend got hit with the ball and was walking off the court since he was out. As my friend was walking off to the side, I threw a ball at him and hit him. Is this expected or unexpected behavior? Why?
Unexpected!! What are some consequences that might happen?
Tommy and Deshawn are working together on a project. They are looking at a question on the worksheet. Tommy says what he thinks the answer is. Deshawn says "Are you serious? No! That's not even close to the right answer!"
Was this a say it or think it thought? How do you think Deshawn's comment made Tommy feel?
Think it. Deshawn's comment probably made Tommy feel sad, hurt, and embarrassed. Can you give a better example of how Deshawn could have reacted?
The person at the desk next to you is talking very loudly during independent work time. You are trying to focus on your work but the talking is distracting you and you are starting to get annoyed. What should you do?
Ask the person to please speak quietly.
Ask your teacher if you can work somewhere else in the room.
Ask your teacher if you can put your headphones on during work time.
If you are getting upset ask if you can take a break or get a drink.
When does a speaker know you are listening?
You should be looking at the speaker and your body should be facing them.
Your mom and dad tell you it's time to turn off the video game and come eat dinner.
Is this a small or big problem?
Small problem. You can always play the video game another time.