Personal Space
What is a personal space bubble?
describe stop and think
try to stop and think about your options before you react to a strong feeling
Demonstrate taking 5 deep breaths
breathe in slowly for the count of 5 filling your belly with air, then breathe out slowly through the count of five
True or False: I often get into trouble for being mad.
FALSE. Mad is a feeling that we all have and it is completely normal and ok to be mad. We can however get into trouble for things that we DO when we are angry (hit, not listen, etc).
True or False:
We are all good at some things, but no one is good at Everything
TRUE: no one is good at everything and that is OK. We all have our own unique strengths and weaknesses.
What is a space invader?
Someone who isn't paying attention or is unaware of others need for personal space.
When would be a good time to use the coping tool "asking for help"?
When I don't know how to do something on my own
Name the coping strategy we would use when we cannot change the thing that is making us upset at the moment
Changing the Channel - is helpful to distract from thoughts/situations that are causing big feelings and that we cannot change
What is a feeling?
What is the word that we learned today that describes how we feel about ourselves?
Self-esteem
TRUE or FALSE: we have the same sized bubbles for everyone
FALSE: Typically, we have smaller bubbles for loved ones and people that we know well, but larger bubbles for people that we are not as close to
describe the coping tool "positive self talk"
saying or thinking positive things about yourself can help you get through a hard task and keep feeling confident
What is Progressive Muscle Relaxation or Squeeze and Release
It is a coping strategy that focuses on squeezing muscle groups and then releasing them to notice the difference in how they feel
What are reactions?
Reactions are how we show our feelings by what we do and what we say.
True or False: Part of having a healthy self-esteem is being able to recognize the the things that we are good at and the things that we may struggle with as well as making a plan on how to improve these areas
TRUE: It's important to be realistic in our strengths and areas we need to improve
How might my mood affect the size of my personal space needs?
When we are feeling angry, typically we like to have more space and so need a bigger bubble to feel safe and comfortable
Walking away can be a good coping tool, but in order to do this you have to have __________.
Permission.
What coping tool is this an example of: I lost my soccer game and feel really upset about this because we did not make the playoffs, but I also am pretty happy because I scored two key goals.
Focusing on the positive (scoring two goals) versus just the negative (losing the game)
What feelings do others have when I do something unexpected?
When I engage in unexpected behaviors it causes others to have uncomfortable thoughts and feelings
True or False: our self- esteem is not affected by how we think about ourselves
FALSE: Our self-esteem can be high or low depending on what we think about ourselves and what others say about us
What should you do if someone pops your bubble and it makes you feel uncomfortable?
So many choices: use your words to tell them that you are feeling uncomfortable and need a bit more space. or try to create more space for yourself by stepping away
Stormy Cloud or negative though
Describe the coping tool: taking a chill out
IF you start to feel overwhelmed by big feelings taking a chill out allows you to give yourself time and space from the situation that is causing those big feelings. You might have a special spot to go to or use special items to help you calm down.
What is an example of an unexpected way to express my feelings
yelling, hitting, being unkind, crying, having big reactions
Change this self-esteem BUSTER to a booster: "I'm not good at anything. I'll never get any better"
I am good at lots of things. I may not be a start soccer player, but I try my best and have fun with my friends.