Self Esteem
What is self-esteem?
Self esteem is what/how you think or feel about yourself.
What does it mean to have a conversation?
Having a conversation involves talking back and forth with other people.
What is a perspective?
A perspective is how you see things! We all have our own perspectives, and they may be different from others
What is empathy?
Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of others.
Before trying to join a conversation, you should listen to make sure that….
You can add or contribute to the conversation
The group is not bullying or being rude to one another
”If I want people to like me, I need to copy what they’re doing to be just like them.”
Is this a helpful or unhelpful thought?
Unhelpful. This means we are not being true to who we are, we are changing the things we like/do just to be liked more.
When talking with others, it’s important to stay on……?
Stay on topic! It can be confusing or odd to suddenly change topics in the middle of conversation.
Your friend didn’t say hi back when you waved and said hello to them in the hall. What are TWO different explanations for what is going on?
The friend didn‘t hear or see you
The friend isn’t feeling well so didn‘t feel like saying hi.
Jamie seems to be having a rough day. You tried to ask her a question and she yelled at you to shut up.
How do you think Jamie is feeling?
How can you show you care?
Jamie might be feeling sad, overwhelmed, angry.
You could ask Jamie if there is something you can do to make her feel better, or maybe ask her how she is feeling. You could offer a hug also.
If I am humming my favorite song in class, and my friend looks at me and rolls her eyes, should I keep humming or stop? Why?
I should stop humming. When my friend rolls her eyes, this tells me that I am being annoying or distracting.
“If I just make a lot of jokes, people will laugh and they will like me”
Is this a helpful or unhelpful thought?
Unhelpful. Trying too hard to make people like you can actually do the opposite! Others can see you as annoying or uncool.
Why should we ask the the other person questions while having a conversation with them?
Asking the person questions can help you get to know the other person better, and it shows them you care about them!
Also, it can move the conversation along.
True or False?
People may have different opinions than me, and that okay.
True.
It’s not wrong to have different views or opinions than others. There are many different ways to look at things
Your friend walks into class and seems sad (she has her head down and it looks like she’s been crying).
You say, “I’m here if you need someone to talk to.”
Is this empathic or not?
This is an empathetic thing to say
I am trying to join a conversation with a group of people, but when I tried they ignored me and continued talking as if I wasn’t even there.
Was I accepted into the conversation?
No, you were not accepted into the conversation.
“If people don’t like me for me, then it doesn’t matter”
Helpful or unhelpful thought?
This is a helpful thought. It’s about being happy, it doesn’t matter what others think about you.
What is it called when someone doesn’t take turns while talking?
Being a conversation hog
If you have tried to see the other perspective in a situations but can’t, you can …..to…….
Your friend tells you that they got a B on on a math test. They are frustrated at themselves and call themselves dumb.
You say, “It’s not really that big of a deal.”
Empathetic or not?
This is NOT empathetic. By telling your friend this is not a big deal this is invalidating how they are feeling.
If I hang out with kids at school who are always getting into trouble, not follwing the rules, and making bad decisions, this can give me a bad……
bad reputation! Even if you are following the rules, hanging around with the wrong crowd can affect how others view you
Name all four things we should remember when thinking about our self esteem.
Strengths+Areas to grow in
”Cool”, “Weird”, Who cares?!
Doing what you love
You. Are. Good.
Listening is an important part of having conversations. What are three things we can do to show the person we are listening?
Face them with your body
Periodic eye contact
No talking or distractions
In order to see more than one perspective or explanation, you must be a ……… thinker.
Flexible thinker! It’s about seeing things from different points of view not just your own.
Tyson is auditioning for the school play later.
How do you think Tyson feels?
How can you show you care?
Tyson might feel nervous, worried, or even excited.
You can with Tyson luck, or offer to go watch his audition.
Name all of the characters we have learned about in group so far. There are 4
Wrong time Will, Accidentally Annoying Andy, Inflexible Izzy, Filterless Frank,