Fair Fighting Rules
Self-Care
Traits of Friendship
Triggers
Random Mr. Holthoff Facts
100

Why are fair fighting rules important? 

So you can communicate respectfully and effectively with the people in your life. 

100

What is self-care? 

Self-care are the things we do to take care of our bodies and minds. 
100

True or false: everyone has the same friendship values.

False, different people can value different traits of a good friend. 

100

What is the definition of a trigger? 

A trigger is something that causes an unwanted emotional or behavioral response.
100

What kind of intern is Mr. Holthoff? 

I am a school counseling intern! 

200

True or False: It is not appropriate to change topics in an argument according to the fair fighting rules.

True, you should only focus on one topic at a time. Bringing up unrelated complaints and issues you have with that person can cause things to get heated. 
200
True or False: self-care can mean different things for different people.

True

200

_______ is a friendship trait which means this person has your back or is always by your side. 

Loyalty. 

200
True or false: triggers are something you have full control over. 
False, you can work on reducing the way specific triggers affect you, but triggers cause an automatic response in your body. 
200

What is Mr. Holthoff's first name? 

My first name is Jake! 
300

_____ _____ are statements you use when you need to tell a person how their actions made you feel while taking responsibility for your emotions. 

I-statements.

300

Examples of this form of self-care can include meditation, praying, and being in nature.

Spiritual self-care

300

A friend who is unlikely to criticize you or make fun of you has this friendship trait. 

Non-judgmental. 
300

True or false: We automatically know what all of our triggers are.

False, it is possible to have triggers that you are not even aware of yourself. 

300

How old is Mr. Holthoff? 

I am 24 years old! 

400

Which fair fighting rule do you break when you get quiet and refuse to speak during an argument? 

No Stonewalling

400

Examples of this form of self-care can include participating in hobbies, learning new things, unrelated to school, or talking about your problems. 

Psychological/emotional self-care. 
400
This friendship trait involves being your true self around people you are close with and bringing down your walls. 

Vulnerability. 

400

Being triggered can cause your ____ or ____ response to activate. 

Fight or flight response. 
400

What instrument does Mr. Holthoff play? 

I play guitar!

500

All of the following are fair fighting rules except: 

A. No degrading language

B. Don't go to bed angry 

C. Taking a time out if you get too heated

D. Before you begin, ask yourself what you are upset about

B. Don't go to bed angry

500

Which one of the following is not a type of self-care we talked about? Physical, psychological/emotional, social, intellectual, or spiritual?

Intellectual self-care.

500

Good friends listen to you when you attempt to set _______or tell them things that you are and aren't comfortable with. 

Boundaries

500

Triggers can often be related to ____ ____ which are very distressing experiences or situations you have experienced in the past. 

Traumatic events. 
500

Name one of the phobias that I have talked about having during group. 

The phobias I have mentioned are bees, wasps or hornets, and heights. 

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