Building Conversations
What is a hot topic?
A topic that anyone can talk about!
What does perspective taking mean?
Putting yourself in someone else's shoes OR Consider someone else's point of view
What is the difference between teasing and banter?
Banter is playful and friendly; teasing among friends. Teasing is provoking or making fun of someone in a playful way.
What is a compromise?
-finding a solution that you both agree on.
Give one example of a hot topic.
music, weather, sports, holidays/vacation, school/work, etc.
Why is perspective taking important in friendships?
Because it helps you think about what the other person might be thinking/ feeling. It can help with problem-solving, etc.
Why do people tease?
To get a big reaction out of the other person.
Group Projects: You have to write a joint book report and now you both have to decide on which book to use. You want to choose one book, but your partner wants another. How do you compromise?
-your book this time, and if there is a report idea that you can't agree on, you can use their idea
-OR their book this time, and if there is a report idea that you can't agree on, you can use your idea
-In this case you can't do both books because you only have one report to write
-pick a new, 3rd book
Why is finding common ground or similarities helpful in conversation?
It gives you something to relate to & builds a connection
How are the "optical illusions" an example of perspective taking?
They show how two different people can see the same picture and interpret it differently.
Reacting by showing you are mad/upset/sad when someone is teasing you- is this a socially risky or socially helpful response?
Socially Risky.
You're gaming online with a friend. You love Roblox and you all have just played this for an hour, and now your friend wants to switch to Minecraft. What should you do?
Compromise or PICC
1. Take turns (do their idea this time and yours next time)
2. Half and half
3. Come up with a brand new plan C
Why is it important to go "back and forth" in a conversation?
You take turns talking so that everyone gets to participate! This helps you find a shared commonality- something to talk about!
You and your friend both audition for the school play. You get a role but they do not. What is one thing your friend might be feeling?
-jealous
-sad
-angry
-happy for you
Removing yourself after giving a teasing comeback, is this a socially risky or socially helpful response?
Socially helpful.
What does PICC stand for?
Problem identification
Choices & Consequences
Name all 5 "Get Curious" starter words. (Hint: they all start with the letter "W").
-Who
-What
-Where
-Why
-When
You get an A on the test, and your friend gets a B-. What should you say, and what should you NOT say, to your friend?
-Don't brag (HAH! I did better than you!)
-Say "good job!"
-Ask your friend how they feel about their grade (they might be happy with it!).
What is a good short comeback in response to teasing?
Some examples:
-"Whatever"
-"so what"
-"who cares?"
-eye rolls, shrug shoulders
You and your siblings get to pick what to order for dinner. You want pizza but they want Chinese food. Walk through solving this problem using the PICC method.
1. Problem identification: Can't decide on what food to eat
2. Choices/Consequences : **get Chinese (not my first choice but their first choice); **get pizza (my first choice but not my siblings); **get something else (neither of our choices); **get mine today and theirs next time we eat out (both of us get our choice just not at the same time); **flip a coin (leave it to chance)