Starting Conversations
Something both you and the other person are interested in (hobbies, movies, etc) or experiencing at the same time (a concert/outing you are both attending).
What is a common interest?
The thing you should do before trying to enter a group conversation
What is listening to the conversation?
Alternatively: What is finding out what they're talking about?
The maximum amount of messages you should send in a row without hearing a response from the other person
What is two? (Two-message rule)
First step when someone brings up a disagreement with you.
What is Keep your cool?
Ignoring the teasing
Acting upset
Walking away without saying anything
Telling an authority figure about the teasing right away
What are things to AVOID when being teased (can make you an easy target?
A strategy to avoid staring at someone when you are looking over at them
What is Use a prop? (example: a phone- look at the person for a second or two, then look down at your phone for a bit, then back up at the person for a second or two)
What is a 1-2 second pause? (Remember, there's no such thing as a "perfect pause")
Trade common interests multiple times
Mention your common interests
Ask what they're doing at a certain date or time
Assess the person's interest
Use a common interest as a reason to hang out
Exchange contact information
Let the other person know when you'll follow up
What are steps for asking someone on a date?
Keep your cool
Listen
Repeat/reflect on what the other person said
Explain your side
Say sorry
Solve the problem
What are the steps for responding to a disagreement?
Stand your ground
Act like what the person said didn't bother you
Act like what the person said is lame or stupid
Give a short verbal comeback
Walk away, or put distance between yourself and the other person (example, by putting on headphones) after the verbal comeback
What are the steps to handling teasing?
The ways to tell if someone is interested in talking to you
What is: Are they looking at me? Are they facing me? Are they talking to me?
Keep your cool
Look away
Turn away
Walk away
What are things to do if you are not accepted AT ALL in the group conversation?
Keep your cool
Make a casual statement of acceptance (example: "Okay, no worries")
Change the subject back to your common interest
Use a cover story/reason to exit the conversation
What are steps for handling someone saying no to going out with you?
Wait for a good time and place
Keep your cool
Ask to speak privately
Explain your side
Listen to the other person’s side
Repeat/reflect on what the other person said
Tell the other person what you need
Solve the problem
What are the steps for bringing up a disagreement?
"Yeah... and?"
"Did you mean that to be funny?"
"Whatever."
What are short verbal comebacks you can use in response to teasing?
Rule of thumb when using humor with someone you just met
What is: Be more serious when you first meet someone (can use more humor as you and the other person get to know each other)
Wait for a pause
Give a specific reason for leaving
Say you'll see them later
Say goodbye
Walk away
What are things to do when exiting a group conversation when you have been fully accepted?
The way to tell if someone wants to be hugged or kissed on a date.
What is asking them?
2 things to do if you and the other person can't come to an agreement
What are
1. Keep your cool, and
2. Agree to disagree?
Rolling your eyes
Shaking your head
What are nonverbal signs you can use to show that the teasers words don't matter to you?
Roleplay starting a conversation with someone else
Roleplay starting a conversation with someone else
Roleplay entering a group conversation
Roleplay entering a group conversation
Roleplay greeting someone at the start of a date
Roleplay greeting someone at the start of a date
Roleplay bringing up a disagreement with someone else
Roleplay bringing up a disagreement with someone else
Roleplay responding to being teased
Roleplay responding to being teased