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You are running over to take a turn on the swing but someone else gets there before you..... What are you thinking? How do you feel? What are you going to do?
Thoughts: "Hey i was going to use that swing!", "No fair", "They cut in front of me!" Feelings: anger/mad, sad/upset, frustration Expected behaviors: Wait until the person is done their turn and then take a turn, find something else to do instead Unexpected behavior: Yell at the person, tell them to get off the swing.
100
The person who is behind you in line keeps stepping on your heels.... What are you thinking? How are you feeling? What will you do?
Thoughts: "They did that on purpose!", "Did they do that on purpose?" Feelings:angry, upset, frustrated. Expected behaviors: ask a positive question..... Unexpected behaviors: turning around and yelling, pushing, hitting or any other physical reaction.
100
A classmate is tapping his/her pencil....What are you thinking? How are you feeling? What will you do?
Thoughts: "I wish they would stop." "That noise is driving me crazy!" Feelings: frustration, anger, annoyed. Expected behaviors: Ignore, ask politely to stop, ask positive question. Unexpected behaviors: grab the pencil from classmate, yell....
100
A classmate is chewing with their mouth open and food is falling out. What are you thinking? How are you feeling? What will you do?
Thoughts: "Eww that's gross", "Why is he/she eating like that." Feelings: disgusted, nervous or unsure what to do. Expected behaviors: ignore, politely ask to stop and explain why, ask a positive question.... Unexpected behavior: saying something mean like "you eat like a pig."
100
The person behind you keeps kicking your seat. What are you thinking? How are you feeling? What will you do?
Thoughts: You might wonder if you are doing it on purpose, you might think they are doing it to be mean. Feelings: anger, upset, frustrated. Expected behaviors: ask them to stop, ask a positive question, ignore..... Unexpected behaviors: yelling at the person, any physical reaction.
200
You tell a classmate that you don't want them to play the game you and your friends are playing. What do you think they are thinking? How do you think they feel? What do you think they might do?
Thoughts might be "no one likes me", "they never want me to play"..... they might feel sad and cry or mad and yell at you. Expected behaviors: they could choose to let it go and find someone else to play with, or they might ask a positive question. Unexpected behaviors: yelling, pushing, hitting or any physical behavior.
200
You are talking loudly in the hallway and it distracts others from hearing the teachers directions. What might your classmates be thinking and feeling? Give examples of expected and unexpected behaviors they might choose.
Thoughts and feelings may include: "I wish he/she would stop talking, I can't hear the teacher", "Why is he/she talking in the hallway?". Feelings might include frustration and anger. Expected behavior: politely ask the person to stop, try to ignore the person talking, ask a positive question. Unexpected behaviors: yelling at the person to stop talking, any physical reaction.
200
You keep interrupting your classmates by blurting out answers. What might your teacher be thinking/feeling? How about your classmates? What might be the reaction to your unexpected behavior from your teacher and classmates?
Your teacher and classmates will probably be frustrated by your blurting. They might ask you politely to stop or ask a positive question to see if you realize that you are interrupting. A classmate might use unexpected behavior and yell at you and tell you to stop interrupting.
200
You cut in front of a classmate in line. What will they think about that? How will it make them feel? What might they do?
Thoughts: "Hey, no cutting..", "Go to the end of the line." Feelings: anger and/or frustration. Expected Behavior: They might use a choice off the conflict wheel such as positive questions. Unexpected: yelling, pushing, hitting
200
You make faces at the person sitting across from you. What might they think about that? How might they feel? What might they do?
Thoughts: "Why is she/he making faces at me." "They are silly." "They aren't being nice." Feelings: happy or unhappy depending on what kind of faces you are making. Behavior: If they think you are being silly they might make faces back at you. If they think you are being mean they might get upset and angry with you and do something unexpected.
300
A classmate takes your lunch. What would you think? How would you feel? What should you do? What are some expected and unexpected ways to act?
Thoughts: "Hey, thats my lunch!" "Why did they do that?" Feelings: Surprise, anger, frustration Expected response: Ask politely for them to give it back. Get help from teacher if needed. Unexpected: Yelling, grabbing, pushing etc. Also it would be unexpected for you to let them keep it. (Ask for help from teacher if needed).
300
A classmate shares their special glitter markers with you. How does that make you feel? What are your thoughts? What will you do?
Thoughts: It's nice of her to share, she is nice, I really like this person. Feelings: Happy, excited, pleased. Expected behaviors: Say thank you and share nicely. Unexpected behavior: Not saying thank you, grabing all the markers and not sharing.
300
A classmate returns a book that you lost to the library. What would you think? How would it make you feel? What would you do?
Thoughts: "Yay, the book has been found- I don't have to pay for it.", "It was nice of them to return it for me." Feelings: Happy, relieved. Expected behavior: Thank the person. Be more careful with your books in the future. Unexpected: Not saying thank you, being mad at the person for returning the book, saying they stole it.
300
You notice a friend cheating during a test. What would you think? How would that make you feel? What would you do?
Thoughts: Hey, that's not fair, why are they doing that.... Feelings: Anger, frustration. Expected behavior: Quietly tell the teacher what you saw. Unexpected: Yelling out "Stop cheating...", doing nothing.
300
A classmate laughs when you fall down on the playground. What would you think? How would you feel? What would you do?
Thoughts: It's not nice for them to laugh at me.....they are not nice. Feelings: Upset, angry Expected behavior: Ask them politely to stop, positive questions. Unexpected behavior: pushing, hitting, yelling.
400
You offer to help a classmate with their homework. What might they think? How will it make them feel? What do you think they will do or say?
Thoughts: "It was nice for him/her to offer to help." Feelings: Happy Expected behavior: say thank you or no thank you. Unexpected behavior: yelling "I don't need your help."
400
You see another student teasing someone on the playground. What does that make you think? How does that make you feel? What will you do?
Thoughts: "Thats not nice, they should leave them alone." Feelings: Angry, sad, furious Expected behavior: you could do go over and stand up for the student and ask them to stop teasing. Unexpected behavior: run over and hit or push the person to get them to stop.
400
Your teacher says you did a good job raising your hand and waiting to be called on. What does that make you think? How does it make you feel?
Thoughts: "I did a good job and the teacher noticed." Feelings: Happy, proud Expected behavior: continue using your good classroom manners Unexpected behavior: start turning around and being silly in your chair.
400
You are playing a game with a classmate and you lose. What do you think? How does that make you feel? What will you do?
Thoughts: "I never win!" , "No fair!", "Oh well maybe next time." Feelings: angry, upset, dissapointed Expected behavior: be a good sport, say good job to your classmate. Unexpected behavior: knock the game on the floor, yell....
400
You really want to be line leader coming in from recess. What do you think? How do you feel? What do you do?
Thoughts: "I really want to be first, I am going to be first no matter what!", "I want to be first but if someone else gets there then its ok." Feelings: excited, determined Expected behavior: line up calmly even if you don't get to be first. Unexpected behavior: run and push people so you can be the line leader.
500
What part of the body controls what we think and feel?
The brain :)
500
When something happens, good or bad, we have.....
thoughts and feelings.
500
Our feelings lead to.....
behavior.....the way we show how we feel.
500
Behavior can be positive and.....
negative.
500
The way we behave at school affects my....
teachers, classmates and MYSELF!
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