Social Cues
What are social cues?
Social cues include facial expressions, body language, and tone of voice; they help us “read” other people and react appropriately.
What is communication?
Communication is when you send a message to another person.
What does it mean to "Put yourself in someone else's shoes?"
Trying to see things from someone else's point-of-view or perspective.
It’s recess time. Someone in your class won’t let you join their group and play the game. What should you do?
-walk away
-do something else
-ask for help
What might happen if you do not read someone's facial expression or body language accurately?
You might say or do something that could hurt a friendship.
When "reading" someone's facial expression...what does it likely mean when their eyebrows are up, their eyes are big/wide and their mouth is open?
What is conversation?
Conversation is the equal or balanced trading of messages between two or more people.
What does the "N" stand for in the "T.H.I.N.K." acronym?
Is it "Needed" or "necessary"
Your friend says something that makes you angry. What do you do?
-tell them how you feel
-talk it out
-tell a trusted adult
-use an "I-feel" statement
What might happen if I was trying to give someone a compliment but my tone of voice sounded rude or sarcastic?
The person might think I was making fun of them; this could hurt a friendship or lead to an argument/fight.
When "reading" someone's body language...what does it likely mean when their shoulders are slumped, and they are looking down?
It likely means they are feeling either shy, sad, embarrassed or uncomfortable in some way.
What is a great way to keep a conversation going?
Ask the other person a question!
What is an example of a "thought stopping" strategy?
Picture a stop sign
Yell "stop!" in your head
snap your fingers
picture your thought as a bug and squash it
picture your thought as a balloon and pop it
sing a song in your head
think of something else
watch the clock and wait 10 seconds before speaking
There’s a kid in your class that gets picked on all the time by the other students. What should you do?
-be kind to the student getting picked on! Offer to spend time with them, be their friend
-stand up for the kid getting picked on
-tell an adult privately that you think the kid needs their help
What might happen if I entered my classroom after a band lesson and called out, "I'm back!"...but I failed to read the room and everyone was silently taking a test.
The teacher might get angry, I might get in trouble, people might laugh at me, people might make fun of me, I'd feel embarrassed, etc.
Why is tone of voice important when delivering a message?
Tone of voice is important because saying it too loud or too softly can change your meaning; this is also true when using sarcasm.
What are the 5 important parts of being an active listener?
1. Eyes on the speaker
2. Mouth is quiet and closed
3. Ears are listening
4. Brain is thinking about what is being said
5. Body is quiet
What is an "I-feel" statement?
Example - I feel _________ when you _________ because __________ and I would like you to _____.
You are spending time with a friend and he wants to play basketball but you want to play soccer. What do you do?
Compromise! Find a solution that will give each person a part of what they want so everyone is happy.
What might happen if my friend told me something private (they never said it was a secret, but I know it would embarrass me if I was "in their shoes") and I told someone else what she said?
Even though my friend didn't specifically say it was a "secret", I may have hurt our friendship by breaking trust. Sometimes it is assumed we won't share private conversations with people who weren't in the conversation.
Why is it important to "read the room"?
So you can fit in with the group better by adjusting your behavior to match the environment.
Explain the difference between passive (too little), assertive (just right) and aggressive (too much) communication.
Passive (too little) - lacks eye contact, speaks quietly or says nothing at all, withdrawn or slumped posture.
Assertive (just right) - good eye contact, confident tone of voice, direct/clear message, respectful words.
Aggressive (too much) - loud or angry/rude tone of voice, threatening body language, intimidating to others and disrespectful.
What are the 5 parts of a good apology?
1-be sincere - mean it!
2-say why you are sorry
3- say why it was wrong
4-say what you will do differently next time
5-ask for forgiveness/how you can make it better
What is the golden rule of friendship?
To make a friend, you have to BE a friend.
What might happen if I fail to use thought-stopping strategies and say something that embarrasses someone or hurts their feelings?
They might become angry, stop being my friend, treat me unkindly, start an argument/fight with me, I might feel bad/guilty, etc.