Feelings
Your Chromebook stops working in the middle of a lesson! Ahhhh! You feel yourself getting stressed. What should you do?
Raise your hand. Let your teacher know what happened.
Wait patiently for a time to ask for help.
Take a deep breath and think about your options
What is the acronym we used for solving problems?
STEP
Good or bad way to start a conversation with someone "You always..." and "you never..."
not the best way. Try "I'm feeling like..."
When you are in a conversation with someone, how can you be a respectful listener?
Ask a question or make a comment, nod, paying attention
Avoid eye rolling, making faces, being distracted
You just learned that you weren't invited to a birthday party of someone you thought you were friends with. What can you do to make yourself feel better?
You can use self-talk
You can plan something fun to do on the day of the party
How can you show support to a friend who is having a really bad day?
You can listen to them, offer support, try to cheer them up.
Your friend is angry with you for not playing with them at recess. What can you do to solve this problem?
What does that look like? Roleplay with someone in the group.
Apologize, say you are sorry.
When bringing up a problem, what is a good way to start a sentence?
I statement "I feel like..."
True or false: it is always a good idea to have a problem solving conversation right away, even if you are in the red zone
False - give yourself time to calm down
One of your friends is in an argument with another of your friends. What should you do?
Best to let them work it out on their own, don't get involved
How might you feel if your classmate is talking about the new iPhone she got for her birthday? It is the very same thing you asked for on your birthday and didn't get.
How can you work through those feelings?
Jealous
What does each letter in STEP stand for?
Say the problem non judgmentally
Think of solutions
Explore consequences
Pick the best solution
Make the problem worse, might get in trouble
True or False. When someone says you did something wrong or they disagree with you, they are being mean.
False- most of the time when someone tells you that you have done something wrong they are only trying to help you.
You get partnered with someone that you are not friends with, and you really don't want to work with them. What do you do?
You can make a new friend during the project.
You can be polite and work together even though you don't want to be friends
How might someone feel if they have done something wrong and they know it was wrong?
Guilt
Practice saying a problem to a friend in a nonjudgmental way - they decided all your weekend plans and you want to do something else
I feel like you picked all of the weekend activities, can we do (what you want to do) instead of (one of their ideas)
A friend has said something that hurts your feelings. What can you do?
Tell them how you feel with a nice voice and explain why.
You may also ask if you have hurt them sometime in the past
What is the difference between aggressive and assertive communication?
Assertive is more respectful
You feel like your friend may be upset with you, but you aren't sure why. He/ she just doesn't seem to be hanging out with you as much. What can you do?
"I feel like we're not spending time together anymore, what's up?"
You got a bad grade on one of your assignments, your teacher is trying to help you understand what you got wrong but you don't want to hear it. so you tell her you don't care. How can you handle this instead?
Take a deep breath. Listen to what she has to say. Say yes ma'am. Ask her if you can take a break. Tell her it was hard and you don't understand and ask for help.
Practice saying the problem in a non judgmental way - you've been hearing from other people that your friend is spreading rumors.
'I've been hearing that you're talking about me to other people and I'm feeling really upset"
Explore the possible solutions: your friend is friends with someone you don't really like
Which one is the best?
Refuse to be friends until she stops being friends with the other person
Tell your friend bad things about the person so they won't want to keep being friends
Explain to your friend you don't get along and will take some space when they are together
Try to get to know the other person so you can all be friends
What is the difference between aggressive and passive aggressive communication?
Passive aggressive is not direct
Walk through STEP for this problem:
A classmate heard a secret about your family and told everyone
S - "I am really hurt that you told everyone about my family"
T - Have a respectful conversation, yell at them, spill their secret, make up a rumor
E - maybe resolved, other options likely make a bigger issue
P - respectful convo