Ways of thinking
What is a process we all go through in our minds as we try to make sense of our own and others’ thoughts, feelings, and intentions in context?
Social Thinking
Understanding that our bodies need to look interested and connected to the group
Body with the group
These are rules that people figure out through observation and experience. They are not written rules.
Hidden Rules
One of your friends always chews with his mouth open. It’s gross—all those saliva-slimed, maggoty, masticated morsels of chopper-chomped chow. (Told you it was gross.) How could you address this delicate subject with your friend?
Talking to them, reminding them of social cues and reminding them it's an unexpected behavior.
Taking the information you already know and making an educated guess based on that information
Smart Guess
When you use your eyes to figure out what messages others are sending.
Thinking with your eyes
Fully concentrating on what is being said rather than just passively hearing the message of the speaker. Active listening involves listening with all the senses.
Listening ears
Following the hidden rules so that people have good feelings about us
Expected
Your best friend spends half the time you’re together texting other friends. You think of sending your friend a text saying, “PUT DOWN YOUR DUMB PHONE AND BE WITH ME!” Maybe there’s a better solution. What is it?
There is a better solution, explain to your friend how you feel and let them know its rude of them not to pay attention to you.
A Comment that is completely disconnected to what has previously been said
Whopping topic change
What is having the ability to interpret information based on different points of view or different contexts?
Flexible thinking
Understanding that our brain needs to look interested and connected to the group
Brain in the group
Failing to follow the set of hidden rules in a specific environment
Unexpected
Your friend bailed on going to the movies with you by saying she was sick. Later you learn she went out with someone else. Instead of getting even by giving her measles, how could you handle this politely?
Politely tell your friend that its ok if they hang out with other friends as long as they are truthful to you.
Wondering about others.We are supposed to have a social curiosity about others and We never know everything there is to know about someone.
Social Wondering
What is the ability to look at problems and situations from a fresh perspective and come up with unique solutions?
Creative thinking.
a number of people or things that are put together or considered as a unit:
Group
These are informal rules that govern behavior in a specific culture or group.
Social norms
A friend posted a photo on social media of you drooling in your sleep. You’re angry and humiliated. Think of a rude way to respond and then a polite way. Which is better and why?
Polite, even if your friends were rude you don't have to. Talk to them and tell them you feel humiliated about the picture and ask them to take it down.
Questions you ask people to try to get them to talk about what you want to talk about
Bridging questions
What is a person's opinion or attitude about an issue, event, or action?
Point of View
have courtesy for others' ideas and opinions, and treat them with value
Respect
are invisible lines that define what is and isn't acceptable behavior for an individual
Boundaries
A friend floods you with hundreds of unwanted texts a day. Think of a rude way to respond and a polite way. Which do you think would work better and why?
Polite, it is best to let them know that multiple text messages are bothering you and ask them to please send less text messages.
Demonstrating interest in someone else's topic that you don't really find to be fascinating.This involves “faking it” through a boring moment rather than telling people you’re not interested in what they're talking about.
Social fake