Detective Eyes
Johnny sees a friend crying and holding their knee. What do his "detective eyes" tell him?
What is the friend is hurt or sad?
What is the "hidden rule" when you walk into the library?
What is using a quiet voice/whispering/being quiet?
When you want to talk to a friend who is already talking, what is a social tool you can use to join in?
What is waiting for a break in the conversation/standing nearby quietly/saying "Excuse me"?
Johnny felt left out at recess. Was he feeling happy, sad, or angry?
What is sad?
What is the first step in solving a social problem, just like a detective solves a mystery?
What is using your eyes and ears to look for clues/observing?
Two kids are standing far apart and not looking at each other. Are they having a friendly talk or a disagreement?
What is a disagreement/not a friendly talk (their body is not "in the group")?
You are outside, but not in the classroom. Can you use a loud voice now?
What is Yes? (The rules change based on the place).
What is one "kind word" you can use when someone accidentally bumps into you?
What is "It's okay" or "No problem"?
What is it called when you can understand how someone else is feeling in their body?
What is empathy?
The problem is that two kids want to play with the same red ball. What is one smart guess (solution) they can try?
What is taking turns/finding another ball/playing together?
A person has a big smile on their face and is jumping up and down. What clue does their body give you about how they feel?
What is happy/excited/joyful?
When it's clean-up time in class, the hidden rule is to help put things away. What happens if you don't follow that rule?
What is the classroom stays messy/others might get upset?
You want to sit in the swing, but two classmates are already using them. What is the social tool to ask for a turn?
What is asking politely "Can I have a turn please?"
A boy in the book felt really mad because his turn on the swing was over. What color might we say his feelings file was (e.g., green, yellow, red)?
What is red/yellow? (Connecting to emotion regulation "zones").
True or False: Hitting a friend is a good way to solve a problem with taking turns.
What is False (it's an unhealthy/unexpected behavior)?
Johnny sees a classmate tapping their feet fast and looking all around the room. What might the classmate be feeling?
What is nervous/antsy/impatient?
The "hidden rule" at a birthday party is to say "Happy Birthday!" and give a gift. What would be an "unexpected" behavior?
What is not saying anything/being mean/taking a present?
When someone tells you their name, what is the polite thing to say back using their name?
What is "Nice to meet you, [Name]"?
Name two different feelings your brain can have at the same time.
What are happy and nervous (e.g., first day of school), or excited and scared (e.g., a roller coaster)?
A friend accidentally knocked a book off your desk. Is this a "big problem" that needs a teacher or a "little problem" you can fix?
What is a little problem?
When you are a good social detective, what parts of your body do you use to figure out what others are doing?
What are your eyes, ears, and brain?
What does it mean to have your "body in the group" during social work time?
What is keeping an arm's length away and turning your body/eyes towards the teacher or speaker?
A friend says something that makes you sad. What "I" statement can you use to tell them how you feel?
What is "I feel sad when you say that"?
When Johnny felt frustrated because he couldn't solve a social mystery, what did he do to calm down?
What is taking a deep breath/thinking about it more/talking to an adult?
A good problem solver uses their brain to think about the choices they have. What should they think about for each choice?
What are the consequences/what might happen next?