Good or Bad Comment
Your friend tells you they got an A on their exam.
You say: That's awesome!
Good Comment
True or False: Changing the topic is never a good idea.
False
Friend: I got a new phone for Christmas!
You: I want to eat a burger.
Bad Response
For example: if the topic is soccer, you can only talk about soccer and ask questions about soccer to keep that conversation going.
False
Friend: I'm feeling really nervous today about our exam
You: Okay
Bad Comment
True or False: Changing the topic can make a person feel like we aren't listening to what they are saying or aren't interested.
True and False
Friend: I want to go to Johnny Rockets.
Me: Johnny Rockets sounds delicious!
Good Response
True or False: You can add your own thoughts about a topic or about what someone says to try and keep the conversation going.
True
Friend: I got a new car!
What's a good comment and what's a bad comment to respond with?
Good: That's cool. That's awesome! No way!
Bad: Okay. Oh.
You are with your friends and they are talking about the new King Kong movie that came out. You want to say something about the movie but the topic changes before you get a chance to add your thought.
What can you do/say? What should you not do
You can find a way to get back to that topic a little later.
You should not get frustrated and yell at your friend or complain that you didn't get to say what you wanted.
Friend says: my dog ran away
You: That great. Now you can get a new dog!
Bad Response
Your friend says "I got a new car" you comment "Love it". What can you ask or say after that to keep the conversation going?
What kind of Car did you get?
When did you get the car?
What color car did you get?
Friend: I will meet you at 3pm.
You: Okay
Good Comment
Give a reason as to why we would want to change the topic?
Conversation is boring.
Topic is making you uncomfortable.
You want to go back to a previous topic that was talked about.
Friend: I don't understand anything in our math class and we have a test coming up.
Me: Yeah it can be a little confusing. If you want, maybe we can study together after school?
Good Response
You made a comment to your friend after they said something. What else can you add to keep the conversation going?
Add a thought or even ask a question.
Why is commenting important?
Let's the other person know that we are listening to what they have to say. It also acknowledges what the other person said.
What are some things you can say move the conversation backwards to something mentioned earlier?
Speaking of...
Back to...
Why is how you respond to a comment important?
It shows the other person that you are listening, it helps keep the conversation going, and it makes the other person feel valued and understood.
Why is it important to keep conversations going?
BONUS!
Helps build friendships/relationships, shows interest for others, allows the exchange of ideas, feelings, and information. It can also help people feel connected.