Small, Medium, or Big
I lost my friends at the mall and my phone died.
Medium- You may need some adult help. You can go to the security guard or info desk and ask for help.
I can't find my pencil so I shout "I need a pencil, I need a pencil" to the whole class.
overreaction-
you could quietly ask a neighbour for a pencil
I lost my phone.
-retrace my steps
-call it
-ask for help looking
-tell someone
You really wanted to try your friend's new pen so you took it when they were not looking. Now your friend is mad. What do you do?
Apologize (I am sorry that I took your pen without asking, it won't happen again.)
You got new seats at lunch. You do not know anyone at your table. How would you start a conversation?
Hi, my name is _________. What's yours? What are you going to be for Halloween?"
I notice a school bully is hurting someone.
Big- Anytime someone is getting hurt you need to ask for help.
I've been feeling really sad and anxious lately but I decide not to tell anyone.
Underreaction - when we feel like this its important to talk to someone and get help
My friends are shoplifting and you know it's wrong.
Tell them to stop. Talk to a trusted adult.
Yesterday, your friend said something mean to you that hurt your feelings. Today, they apologize and want to be your friend again. What do you do?
Accept the apology
or
Tell them you need more time
Role Play: You broke something of your teacher's. She does not look happy. What do you say?
I'm sorry that I broke it. It was an accident. I will try to be more careful next time
I spilled some of my lunch.
Small- you can fix it yourself.
The restaurant doesn't have the kind of noodles your like and usally get. You yell at the waiter
Overreaction-
it isn't the waiters fault. You could try something new
Someone took the seat I usually sit in.
Try a new seat
You joined a new club. You don't know anyone but want to make friends. What can you do.
Introduce yourself, ask them questions about themselves and share things about you when they ask
You were absent yesterday and when you came back to math class, you were really confused.
"I was absent yesterday and I don't quite understand the math we are doing. Could you help me?"
My mom is very sick and in the hospital
Big- Anytime someone is hurt or sick it is a big problem. It will take many people, doctors, nurses etc. to solve. It also involves a lot of big emotions.
You lose at chess. You decide to ask for a rematch
appriopriate reaction
-It's okay to lose sometimes, you can join next-time
Somebody fell and is hurt
Ask if they are okay, if not get an adult to help or if they are seriously injured call 911
Your friend is gossiping about your other friend and saying mean things while they aren't there
Change the topic
Share something kind about them
or tell them you don't feel comfortable talking behind their back
You talked back to the teacher in class. She is upset and sent you to the principal's office. What do you say to your teacher when you get back to class?
"I am sorry for talking back during class, I know it was rude. It will not happen again"
I was shopping and bumped into a glass vase and broke it.
Medium- you probably need help from the store manager to clean it up and you may have to pay for it
You hear your friends whispering and they stop when you approach. You call them out for gossiping about you.
overreaction- They could have been talking about something else. It's important not to blame before we know.
I won't be able to finish my assignment on time
Talk to the teacher to ask for an extension
One of your friends keeps interrupting or talking over you
Be honest, they might not even be aware.
Use an I statement.
Example: I feel sad when you talk over me because it feels like you don't care what I have to say. Next time please wait till I'm done talking
Two of your friends are planning to hang out after school without you. This makes you feel jealous and left out. What do you say?
"Hey, I heard you were going to McDonalds after school. Can I come with?"