Vocab
This is a disagreement or something that doesn’t match or work well together.
Conflict
One person decides that the other person’s point of view is relevant and both people can agree to share the same point of view.
Agreement
Shaking, racing heart, goosebumps
Scared/Nervous
Everyone agrees to try the plan.
Implement the plan
This means to reach a decision or find a solution.
Resolve
Adults help to make a decision.
Seeking guidance from an adult
Clenched teeth or hands, hot temperature, tense muscles
Angry
What are you arguing about? Read the other person’s body language. Describe how you feel. Have the other person state his or her wants and feelings. Summarize
Identify the problem
Ways of thinking that keep use stuck in negative, unrealistic thoughts.
Thinking Traps
Both people agree to do one thing in exchange for something else (e.g., “If I do this, will you do that?”).
Making a deal
Crying, low energy, maybe some heart pain
Sad
List some of the ways you can solve this problem.
Develop a plan (solutions)
Being able to identify coping strategies that can help manage your anger so that you are in control and make good choices even though you are feeling angry.
Anger Management
People decide play a game to resolve the conflict, or they decide to just not do anything and see how things turn out (e.g., game of Connect Four winner gets the toy/object/time on preferred playground equipment or electronic device; flipping a coin).
Friendly rivalry/leave it to chance
Speechless, hot face, racing heart
Embarrassed
Determine if the plan will work. Would it be safe and fair? Is it a win–win situation?
Evaluate the plan
This is a way of dealing with a problem in a helpful/constructive manner and finding some way to reach an agreement.
Problem solving/conflict resolution
Both people decide this is something they will likely not agree on and they will accept this fact. Having differing perspectives is okay!
Agree to disagree
Restlessness, fatigue, unease, slightly low energy
Bored
Bonus 1000 pts: Model Giving praise & Active listening
Model