Personal Boundary
What is a personal boundary?
A way parents communicate—through actions, rules, & expectations—that their child is loved yet distinct from them.
What are the 3 types of parental support?
• Demanding
• Protective
• Supportive
What are accommodations?
Any actions you may or may not be doing because of your child’s anxiety.
What is the purpose of an accouncement?
To inform the child of the accommodation plan in a clear & resolute way.
Is it important to maintain personal boundary even when parents and/or child feel anxious?
Yes, as long as danger isn’t present.
Which type(s) of parental support should be avoided?
• Demanding: When parents push the child to be brave without recognizing their fear
• Protective: When parents only comfort or protect the child from the anxiety
In what situations would it be okay to accommodate a child?
Dangerous situations.
True or False: Announcements help to decrease parents‘ accommodating an anxious child.
False. That’s what the accommodation plan is for!
A key part of supporting an anxious child is having empathy. What does empathy teach us?
The importance of 1) recognizing what your child feels while 2) remembering those feelings belong to them.
What type of statements are the following?
1. “There’s nothing to be afraid of.”
2. “You’re doing great, even if it feels hard right now.”
3. “I’m not afraid of it so you’ll be fine.”
• Demanding
• Supportive
• Demanding
Accommodation or Not:
• Sleeping with a child who’s anxious to sleep alone
• Not inviting guests over due to child’s social anxiety
• Helping a child who fell into the deep end of the ocean
• Accommodation
• Accommodation
• Not
There are 7 key parts of an announcement. Name at least 2 key parts.
1. Positive Statement
2. Address The Anxiety The Child Is Feeling
3. Supportive Statement
4. What Parents Have Been Doing Thus Far Hasn’t Been Working
5. Specifics Of The Plan
6. Acknowledgement That It Will Be Hard For The Child
7. Positive Conclusion
SPACE aims to teach us about true empathy when supporting an anxious child. What does true empathy teach us?
The importance of helping without losing yourself in your child’s emotions.
Which type of statements are the following?
1. “My job is to protect him from all this.”
2. “It’s okay, you don’t have to go if you’re scared.”
3. “This isn’t easy, but we can take one step at a time.”
1. Protective
2. Protective
3. Supportive
True or False: An accommodation is a behavior parents wouldn’t engage in unless the child was anxious.
True.
What should parents do if the child engages in disruptive behaviors when the accouncement is given?
Ignore the behaviors (unless dangerous).