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Your friend has suggested you play a game you really don’t want to play.
What can you say or do?
Tell them, suggest a different game
You are struggling with your worksheet and have already looked at your notes. What can you do if you still can’t figure it out?
Let your peers or teacher know you are struggling and see if they can help.
You have lost your boots and have looked everywhere. You can think of to find them. What can you do?
Ask somebody in the house if they have seen them or if they can help you look for them.
You are working on a project for your boss, but are having a hard time focusing because people keep coming to talk to you and disrupting your workflow.
How can you make it easier to get your work done?
either explain to your coworkers or put up a sign that you would rather not be disturbed at this time.
You are trying to get to a certain item in the grocery store, but there is someone standing in the way. How can you speak up for yourself?
Say excuse me or ask them to move.
Somebody said some thing that upset you. You responded with “geez that was dumb.” How could you have spoken up for yourself in a better way?
You could have told them that it offended you or hurt your feelings and ask them to not say things like that in the future or to say them differently.
Brooke has accidentally stolen your pencil! How can you speak up for yourself and get your pencil back?
Tell Brooke kindly that she accidentally took your pencil and ask that she returned it.
A roommate keeps leaving dirty dishes in the sink without washing them for several days. This makes it difficult for you to be able to prepare your own meals. Which option is a better way to address the issue?
A. Tell your roommate that you would appreciate it if they watched their dishes or did not leave them in the sink so that you could more easily prepare your food.
B. Wash your dishes every time you need to use the sink.
A.
It is nice to occasionally help out people with their chores, it is not your responsibility to complete a chore for another person.
You need to schedule a doctors appointment, but it is during your normal working hours. How can you support yourself and going to the doctors office?
Tell your boss and request time off
You were at the grocery store at the self checkout and the self checkout stops working. What can you do?
Find an employee at the grocery store and ask them for help with the self check out.
You are in a relationship in the person you are dating tells you that they would rather you not talk to your friends anymore. You disagree with this and believe that your friends are a good support for you and your life. How can you address this?
Tell your partner you are unwilling to compromise her friendships in order to sustain your relationship.
Mr. Blasco told you he would help you with a worksheet in a few minutes, but several minutes have passed by and you still need help.
You loudly sigh and say, I can never get help in this place.
What could you have done instead to get help for yourself?
Remind Mr. Blasco that he offered to help you and ask if he is busy. Alternatively, you could ask another teacher in the room if they have time.
You are at a friends house and they made some thing that you cannot eat for dinner. (Either because of religious or allergy reasons )
how can you speak up for yourself?
Politely tell your friends parents that you are unable to eat what they have made and ask if there is an alternative if you can have.
You are in a meeting with your boss that is running way over. If you keep talking to your boss, you will miss lunch. How can you speak up for yourself?
Politely ask your boss if you can end the meeting at the predetermined time and discuss anything else at a later time.
You are Eddie coffee shop, and have been waiting for your order for 20 minutes. It usually does not take this long and you were in a hurry, so you begin, tapping your foot angrily and huffing a lot while glaring at the barista.
Is there a better way to get your needs met?
Yes, you could ask one of the barista if your order is almost finished or to get help replacing it.
You are at a public art event and one of the members keeps bringing up topics that you find disturbing and gross. Which of these options are a better way to advocate for yourself?
A. Complain about the topics. The other person is bringing up loudly enough for everyone to hear.B. Speak to the person discreetly indirectly and ask them to change the topic of their conversation or to talk more quietly.
B.
You have a plan set up for school that you get a 10 minute break at the end of every class. Class is almost over and the teacher has not released you to go on your break, how can you address this?
Raise your hand or get the teachers attention and remind them about your plan to take a break at the end of class.
Sareen has been visiting you at your house for several hours. You’ve had a lot of fun but now you are getting tired and want to lay down and be alone. How can you tell Sareen this?
Be honest and kind with Sareen about how you are feeling and ask her if you can have some time alone.
You noticed the pasta you brought in for lunch is half empty when you go to eat it on your lunch break. You had not given anybody else in the office permission to eat any of your pasta.
Address your coworkers personally if you are able or send an email or message to the staff asking to please respect other peoples food and ask before they eat food that they are not sure who it belongs to.
You are at the grocery store and an item that you thought was on sale rings up at full price.
Which of these options would be the best way for you to advocate for yourself?
A. Tell the cashier that the item did not ring up at the correct price and ask them to double check.
B. Say nothing and pay for the item at full price.
A. It is OK to speak up for yourself when something turns out differently than how you expected it to.
Your birthday is coming up and you planned to spend it with just a few close friends at a restaurant restaurant. You hear that one of your friends is planning a big surprise party which you do not want to be a part of. What can you do?
You can confront your friend and explain to them that you would rather spend your birthday party with a small group of people.
You are trying to take a test but struggle with reading directions and perform best when you are able to hear directions read aloud to you. There is not currently way for you to hear the directions out loud. What can you do?
Raise your hand and ask the teacher for an accommodation so that you can do best on your test.
Your parents said something earlier in the day that really hurt your feelings and you can’t stop thinking about it. It was very confusing what they said, how can you address this with them?
Explain why you are confused or hurt and ask them for an explanation or an apology.
You asked your boss for Friday off, but when the schedule came out, you noticed that you were scheduled to work your full shift on Friday. How can you handle this?
Explain to your boss that you already had the time off excused and asked them to take you off the schedule.
You are at the doctors office and your doctor prescribes you a new medication. You are slightly uncomfortable about starting a new medication and you’re not sure what to expect or what the side effects might be. What can you do in the situation make sure you’re making the best decision for yourself?
You should tell your doctor you are uncomfortable and request that they have a more detailed conversation about how the medication might affect you and possible side effects.