Generosity
Name three IMMATERIAL gifts we can give to others.
Examples:
Volunteering at church
Helping an elderly neighbor with chores
Singing in the school choir
WHAT ELSE!?
Define anger.
A strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure, or hostility.
What IS forgiveness?
Letting go of resentment and the urge to seek revenge.
"Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me."
Is this statement true?
No. Hurtful words are... HURTful.
What is belonging?
Belonging is a sense of fitting in or feeling like you are an important member of a group.
Define and describe generosity.
Giving of oneself - often in the form of material gifts.
What are 4 clues your body gives you to help identify that you are angry?
Flushed face, clinched fists, shallow breathing, raised voice, aggressive thoughts, sweating, rapid heart beat...
What else!?
What two things did the counselors teach you that forgiveness is NOT?
forgetting the wrong or condoning (excusing) the wrongdoer.
Trusting the person who hurt you (example - a bully)
What is empathy?
Understanding and sharing the feelings of another.
Seeing and feeling the world through their eyes and their experiences.
Walking in their shoes.
Name three benefits of feeling that you belong.
Belonging helps us feel included in the lives of others and connected with them.
Belonging helps us to not feel isolated and lonely.
Belonging helps us feel a sense of purpose.
Belonging helps us feel accepted for who we are.
Belonging helps us feel a part of something greater than ourselves.
...What else!?
Why do we give gifts at Christmas?
As Christians we give gifts because we are called to imitate God’s generosity and love - who gave His only Son to us on Christmas. Jesus is the greatest gift of all.
We also give gifts in remembrance of the three wisemen and the gifts they gave the Christ Child.
What are anger triggers?
Anger triggers are people, places, situations, and things that set off anger. Your triggers can provide clues about the emotions behind your anger.
Name 2 of the 5 Components of Forgiveness.
Inherent Worth
Unconditional Love
Kindness
Respect
Generosity
When are we more likely to judge other people?
When we do not understand them.
Name 3 emotions we feel when we have a deep sense of belonging.
Comfortable, relaxed, accepted, validated, included, warmed, empathized with, a sense of community, like family, wanted, desired....
What else!?
What were the magi's three gifts to the Christ child?
Gold
Frankincense
Myrrh
Name 3 anger management skills.
Breathing exercises (4 square)
Physical exercise - walking, running, biking, playing basketball, skateboarding, etc.
Journaling
Acting opposite (acting lovingly, kindly)
Self-directed time-outs
Relaxation techniques - body scans, visualizations
What else!?
Name 3 barriers to forgiveness.
Strong and difficult emotions (anger, betrayal, hopelessness)
Hurtful memories
Painful reminders
Not wanting to forgive
Being encouraged by others to not forgive
Finish this sentence from the video Empathy Can Change the World:
"Instead of putting others in their place..."
"Put YOURSELF in their place."
What are two ways we create belonging?
1. We learn to be vulnerable.
Belonging starts with you deciding to spend time, energy, and emotions on deepening intimacy (closeness or togetherness) and mutual help.
2. Ask for Help.
We love helping friends, but often forget to ask for help in order to not look weak...which blocks opportunities for intimacy (closeness/togetherness) for all of us.
Asking for help = an invitation to grow together!
3. Contribute Often.
Volunteer (school, church, neighborhood, family, friends, sports teams, scouts….what else?)
Offer to help when we see others in need.
4. Grow Communities
Get to know your neighbors in your neighborhood
Get to know your neighbors at church
Ask “How can I contribute?”
What are the threefold aspects of Christ represented in the magi's gifts?
Priest
Prophet
King
Name 5 emotions that underlie anger.
(Hint - remember the anger iceberg.)
Sadness, disappointment, embarrassment, loneliness, frustration, stress, grief, guilt, shame, anxiety, insecurity, jealousy...
What else!?
What are 4 benefits to forgiveness?
Heals friendships
Decreases anger
Improves relationships
Helps others
A good work of mercy
It is charitable
It is virtuous
You are obeying God's commandments
...What else!?
Name 3 ways of practicing or increasing empathy.
Be respectful - listen to people without interrupting so you can hear their thoughts and feelings.
Pay attention to body language and other types of nonverbal communication
Try to understand where people are coming from, even when you don't agree with them
Ask people questions to learn more about them and their lives
Imagine yourself in another person's shoes
...What else!?
Name the seven norms this class decided on.
Answers will vary with classes : )