Goals
Name the 4 goals of Misbehavior
Attention
Power
Revenge
Displaying inadequacy
I mirror my teens feelings
What is reflective listening
State the questions you ask yourself to determine who owns the problem
What are
Are my rights being disrespected
Could anybody get hurt
Is someone's property being threatened
Is my teen unable to take this responsibility
This helps a teenager to learn to be responsible
What is
Discipline
Name 3 symptoms of depression in a teen
What is
a sad or "empty" mood that does not go away
A definite change in schoolwork, sleeping, weight, or eating habits
frequent crying
a loss of interest or pleasure in ordinary activities
a loss of energy or a tired feeling that doesn't go away
problems concentrating, remembering, or making decisions
feeling very guilty, worthless, or helpless
crankiness that doesn't' go away
talk of dealt or suicide, or suicide attempts
aches and pains that don't go away with treatment
The questions you ask yourself to determine to goal of is behavior
What are
How you Feel when the misbehavior happens
What you do about the misbehavior
How your teen responds to what you do
Name the 4 statements you ask yourself in an I message
What is
I feel
When you
Because
I need
I can answer yes to at least one of the problem ownership questions, who then owns the problem
What is
the parent owns the problem or you both own the problem
Instead of giving orders, I should give my teen____
What is
limits and choices
Name 3 common eating disorders
What is
Obesity
Anorexia
Bulimia
I feel annoyed
What is attention seeking
What type of messages show respect
What are
I-messages
Every answer is no to the questions to determine who owns the problem
the teenager owns the problem
Name the steps you take to use a consequence
What is
Identify the teens goal
Decide who owns the problem
Offer choices
Follow through
Name the guidelines for family meetings
Meet at a regular time
Make a list of topics
Take turns being the leader
Take notes
Let everyone take part
Limit complaining
Cooperate to do chores
Do what you agree to do
Take time for fun
Hopeless, like giving up
What is Display inadequacy
Encouragement is a
What is
Gift
Name the steps to solving the problem
What are
Understand the problem
brainstorm ideas to solve it
Discuss the ideas
Choose an idea
Use the idea
Consequences are not helpful to teens who ________
What is displays inadequacy
Name the steps for deciding what to do
What is
Identify the goal of misbehavior
Decide who owns the problem
Choose an approach
Keep encouraging your teen and yourself
very hurt, angry
What is Revenge
Praise is a
What is
Reward
Name the questions you use when you talk with your teen about a problem
What are
Where?
When?
What?
Who?
Which?
How?
Name some guidelines for using consequences
What is
Be both firm and kind
Talk less, act more,
Don't fight or give in
Use respectful words
Respect the choice
Make it clear when there is no choice
Don't worry about what others think
Stay calm
Respect the other parent or parents
Name 6 skills for helping your teen
What is
Identifying the goal
Reflective listening
I-messages
Exploring alternatives
Giving choices
Encouragement