Safety Plan
What are two parts of a Safety Plan?
Calling Safety Plan and Separating
What is self-talk?
The thoughts you say to yourself in your mind.
Name one hurtful move and one helpful move
Hurtful: name-calling.
Helpful: using an "I" statement.
What does accountability mean in Step-Up?
Taking responsibility for your behavior without blaming others.
Is anger a bad emotion?
No, it’s normal—but what we do with it matters.
Why is it important to use your Safety Plan before things get out of control?
To prevent escalation, violence, or consequences like police involvement.
How can negative self-talk affect your behavior?
It can increase anger, anxiety, and lead to negative reactions.
Why is blaming hurtful?
It makes the other person defensive and shuts down communication.
What’s a sign someone is NOT being accountable?
Saying, "It’s not my fault—you made me do it."
Name two feelings that are often under anger.
Hurt and fear.
What’s one reason youth say they don’t use their Safety Plan?
They feel like they’re giving up or losing.
Give an example of helpful self-talk.
I can take a break before I lose control.
What’s a better move than yelling when upset?
Taking a break or using calm words.
Why does saying exactly what you did help others feel better?
It shows honesty and that you understand the harm.
Why is talking about your feelings better than yelling?
It helps others understand you and prevents escalation.
Rewrite this self-talk into a strength statement: "If I walk away, they’ll think I lost
"Walking away shows I’m in control."
What’s a core belief?
A deep belief you hold about yourself, others, or the world.
What’s the difference between passive, aggressive, and assertive communication?
Passive avoids conflict
aggressive harms others
assertive is respectful and direct.
What’s one restorative question you can ask after a conflict?
"How did my behavior affect you?"
or
"What can I do to make amends?"
What is the "Iceberg of Feelings?"
The idea that anger often hides deeper emotions underneath.
Your mom says you can't go to your friends birthday party because you didn't clean your room. You feel super mad and want to yell.
What could you say to use your safety plan?
"I need a break. I need to go to my room to cool down before we talk more."
Rewrite this core belief: "No one ever listens to me."
"Sometimes people don’t understand me, but I can try to explain calmly."
Give an example of switching a hurtful move to a helpful move.
Instead of slamming a door, say "I need some space right now."
Give an example of accountable communication.
"I yelled and scared you. That was wrong and I’m sorry."
Rewrite this: "You never listen to me!" Use a feeling under the anger.
"I feel hurt and unimportant when you don't let me share my feelings."