Boundaries
You accidentally spilled a drink on the table during dinner. What do you do?
say "Sorry." and get a paper towel to clean it up
role play how to show respect and active listening when someone is talking to us.
Role play activity (eye contact, reflective listening...)
You broke your pencil. How should you react?
Ask to sharpen it or get a new pencil.
"Can you please leave me alone right now?" remove yourself from the situation and go somewhere else...
Roleplay: How you would ask your teacher a question in class if you do not understand the homework?
Shiva is the teacher
Name your favorite "cool down" technique.
Examples: Listening to music, taking a walk, deep breaths, meditation, taking a break, getting a drink of water.
You are working on your school assignments however your peer distracts you by talking to you or making noises, use I statement to express your concern.
"I feel confused/overwhelmed because you distract me while I am working on my assignment. Would you please.......
You can't find the chicken soup in the grocery store. How should you react? role play with someone
Ask someone for help (role play activity)
ex: use clear language, say what you would like, and remove yourself from the situation if neccessary
You are in the middle of class. You need to ask a question but the teacher is talking, what do you do?
Raise hand on Zoom and wait her for to answer you. Use patience
Are you MORE or LESS likely to get overwhelmed if you are tired, hungry, stressed, or feeling sick? Name 3 other things that make you feel overwhelmed (act out activity)
MORE likely.
There are Triggers that make you overwhelmed.
Your friend is telling you a story and you really want to say something, you should ______.
Wait your turn.
You walk into the kitchen and see one of family or friends is laying on the floor and is not responding when you call her/his name. How should you react?
This is a BIG problem. You should call 911.
Talk about how you respect other people's boundaries
Leave someone alone when they ask, don't continue to ask questions once you have the answer, don't physical touch someone to get attention (pushing, touching, hitting, name calling)
You want to play with your brother but he is not interested and is busy. What do you do? Roleplay how to talk to him
Use clear wording and be specific on when you will try and talk to him
Do NOT touch him or try to get his attention by being annoying or continuing to ask questions
Do all cool down techniques work for everyone? EXAMPLE: If listening to music helps you cool down, will it help everyone cool down?
No. Not every cool down technique works for everyone. You need to find the cool down technique that works for you.
You're talking to someone at lunch. They keep looking away/looking around while you are talking. You should _____.
end the conversation because they don't pay attention and there is no direct eye contact.
Your brother is borrowing your tablet. You really really want to play a game on it. How do you react? (role play
you can ask NICELY if you can have your tablet back.
Does everybody have to be your friend?
No. Sometimes, people are just not nice and it is fine to have emotional boundaries with them
You've been doing homework all day at school. You are very tired. Give an example of expressing your emotions to those around you.
"I" statements. Ex: "I feel very tired right now because of ___ so it would be great if I could get back to you at ___ time."
Demonstrate a "cool down" technique now
If you are talking with your teacher and she says "On Tuesday when we go to Second Harvest..." and you know she meant Thursday, should you correct her?
No. You may politely ask her when she is DONE talking, "Did you mean on Thursday?" if you are really confused.
one of peers jokes make other uncomfortable. how do you react?
"hey! that is not cool. Please stop your jokes"