Strengthening families
What did you learn in this group?
problem solving, polite ways to interrupt, parents game, childrens game, etc...
How can we show others we are listening to them?
eye contact, have a pleasant face, ask questions, don't intturupt
How can we speak so others will want to listen?
ask yourself if it is a good time, look at the person, have a pleasant face and voice, don't speak to loudly or to softly, don't stand to close or to far away, keep it going.
What are two "magic rules for success"?
Reward what you like
Ignore what you don't like
What is an example of praise?
"you are a nice friend", etc....
What is a polite way to interrupt?
Have a pleasant face, look at the person, wait for a pause, say "excuse me"
What are the "Rules for Family Talks"?
1. One person talk at a time
2. Everyone gets a chance to talk
3. Listen to others ideas
4. Do not say another persons ideas or dumb
What are the four steps to staying out of trouble?
1. Stop what you are doing
2. Think about what could happen
3. Say "NO"
4. Look for something else to do.
Can you talk to your parent/parents about drugs and alcohol?
Yes
What are the 5 steps of problem solving?
1. Find the problem
2. Decide what you want to happen
3. List all your ideas to fox it
4. Pick the best idea
5. try it! if it does not work try a new idea
What is parents game?
Your parents will learn to tell you clearly what they want you to do--- without nagging or yelling
Can you have more than one feeling at the same time?
Yes you can have many feeling all at the same time
What is a polite way to criticize someone?
Pick a good time (do not criticize if someone is already upset)
Look at the person
have a pleasant face
say something nice first
say what the problem is and explain why it is a problem
offer a solution or to help
Thank the person for listening
What should you do if you are criticized?
Look at the person,
Listen
Ask questions if you do not understand
Don't argue
Say "Thanks for telling me"
What is a good way to deal with anger?
Stop, Think about what will happen if you lose control, ask why you are really angry, calm down, reward yourself.
Coping skills: taking deep breathes, counting, screaming into a pillow, taking a step away from what makes you angry