Communication
The 5 most important words are: "______ _____ _____" and "_______ ______."
I Love You
I'm Sorry
When we receive a sincere compliment, it triggers "feel-good" ___________ in our brains.
Chemicals
The purpose of Happy Family Rituals is the to help family members feel ___________.
Included
During Positive Practice you ______/______ the behaviors you want.
Model/Teach
What does ANTS stand for?
Automatic Negative Thoughts
When "Delivering Difficult Feedback," how should you sit?
Next To Them.
When you learn new things or repeat an action over and over, your brain neurons grow new ________ called "dendrites."
Branches
What are the three R's?
________
________
_______/________
Rules
Rewards
Responsibilities/Routines
To validate means to express that you understand the other person's ________ and _______, even if you disagree.
Feelings
Perspective
What are three things that can trigger a relaxation response?
Tense & Relax, Meditative Breathing, Counting Down, Etc.
Communication Boulders are words or voice tones that harm relationships. Name three from the Dirty Dozen List.
______
______
______
Sarcasm
Put-Downs
Crabby Voice
Slash and Burn
Hostile Criticism
Always/Never
Blame Game
Mind Reading
Flooding
Stonewalling
Take Offense
Dumping
At what age is the brain fully developed?
Around 25.
What are the 5-W monitoring questions to ask whenever your kids leave home?
__________ are you going?
__________ are you going with?
__________ will you be doing?
__________ will you return?
__________ there be alcohol there?
When
Who
What
When
Will
_______________ Negotiation means you want the other person to receive as much benefit in the negotiation as you receive.
Win-Win
To help change behavior, "Reinforcing Compliments" use 5 simple steps:
1. Give it ________.
2. Be ________.
3. Describe the ______ you liked.
4. Tell how it will ________ the kid.
5. Add a ________.
Immediately
Enthusiastic
Action
Benefit
Touch
When we give sincere compliments its like putting ________ in our children's emotional bank accounts. Criticism makes _________.
Deposits
Withdrawls
Name three areas of the teen brain that are harmed by alcohol and drugs.
_______
________
________
Hippocampus
White Matter
Frontal Cortex
Children who eat dinner with their families five to seven times a week are ______% less likely to use alcohol or drugs.
33%
Steps to "Effective Ignoring"
1. Show no ________.
2. Turn your attention immediately ________.
3. Don't ________ at the person.
4. Have no physical contact until misbehavior _____.
5.Give positive _____/______ the moment the misbehavior stops.
Emotion
Away
Yell
Stops
Praise/Feedback
List the main words of the 5-Cs refusal skill that helps children say "no" to harmful things to stay out of trouble.
_________
________ ______
________ _______ _______
________ _______ _______
________ ________
Caution
Cool It
Change The Plan
Catch You Later
Call Me
LUV stands for:_________,__________,_________.
Listen
Understand
Validate
What children:_____, _____, ______, ______, ______, ____, and ______ effects the development of their brains.
Hear
See
Think
Experience
Say
Do
Consume
What are SMART Goals?
Specific
Measurable
Attainable
Realistic
Timely
What are the Seven Steps of Effective Problem-Solving?
1. Define the _______ and share different _______.
2. State how you would like ______ _____ _____.
3.__________ possible solutions.
4.Evaluate the 3 best ___________.
5. _________ on the best solution.
6. Make and implement a plan to carry out the ______ _________.
7. ___________ outcomes; adjust if necisarry.
Problem Perspectives
Things To Be
Brainstorm
Solutions
Decide
Best Solution
Evaluate
What are the four footprints to "Step out of anger?"
________
_______
_______ _______
________
Trigger
Cue
Anger Reducer
Reminder